One day, a son told his father.
“Son: I don’t want to learn to dance?
Father: Why?
Son: Learning to dance is exhausting. I have to practice the moves every day. I want to learn to sing.
Father: Okay, you like what you learn.
One month later
Son: I don’t want to learn to sing anymore.
Father: What’s wrong?
Son: I sang until I was hoarse but I still couldn’t sing well.
Father: Never mind, you’re still young, at this age you should play, your parents won’t force you.
Ten years later
Teacher: We will organize a New Year party and everyone must register a talent.
Child: Teacher, I don’t know anything.
Teacher: Then it’s your responsibility to sweep the floor and clean up!
Father: The New Year party is great. Why didn’t I see you perform?
Child: I don’t know anything, how can I get on stage? Why didn’t you invest in developing my hobbies from the beginning?
Father: At first you didn’t want to do anything, how can you blame your parents for not training you?
Son: I didn’t want to learn, so you didn’t let me learn? I was young and didn’t understand, were you the same?
The father was surprised and speechless.
In fact, this is a story that many families will encounter. So how to develop potential, nurture children’s interests? Is it always a good thing to “respect” children’s opinions?
“Why don’t mom and dad force me?”
According to a statistic, up to 99% of children have told their parents: I don’t want to study anymore.
Of course, we have to admit that not only 99% of children don’t want to study, but also 99% of adults have this thought.
Compared to “liking to study”, “hating to study” is probably more in line with the nature of children.
But should parents always “respect” the children’s opinions? According to experts, it’s a “No”. Because this can develop irresponsibility towards the child’s future.
A study in the US shows that it is not IQ that determines a child’s future, but perseverance.
Young children often see the happiness before their eyes, but do not realize that not studying hard will create difficulties and hardships in the future.
If at this time, parents easily accept that children give up, it will be difficult to build a successful future as desired. Therefore, many parents blame themselves for not forcing their children from the beginning.
A study in the US shows that it’s not IQ that determines a child’s future, but perseverance.
Children don’t have a long-term vision but parents should
American economist James J. Herman used econometrics to prove that the return on investment in early childhood education is the highest.
He pointed out that investing in the early development stage brings superior benefits compared to later stages.
For example, if parents invest 1 dollar for children from 0-3 years old, they can get back 18 dollars. For children from 3-4 years old, if you invest 1 dollar, you will get back 7 dollars. Similarly, when investing 1 dollar in elementary school children, parents will only get back 3 dollars, while in college, investing 1 dollar only brings 1 dollar. This shows that early education is a smart financial investment and a solid foundation for development.
However, there is something even more important than making money, and that is the spiritual world. Emotional and social development in the early years has a profound impact on how children interact with the world around them. Studying hard and enriching the inner world helps children form better morals and character.
Parents should have a long-term vision to orient their children.
Education is not just about transmitting knowledge, but also about forming character and developing critical thinking skills. Rich experiences in the early years, from reading, participating in artistic activities, to connecting with friends and family, all contribute to the formation of life values, empathy, and creative thinking ability.
Moreover, investing in early education also helps children develop necessary social skills, such as communication, teamwork, and conflict resolution. Well-educated children from an early age tend to be confident and face future challenges and opportunities.
Children lack concentration but parents should
Mr. Ye Shengtao once said: “What is education? Simply put, it is the cultivation of good habits.”
Some parents have enrolled their children in expensive hobby classes, but they are not really effective.
The fundamental reason why children don’t want to study is because the more they study, the more discouraged they become, and they think of other things and lose focus.
Parents only need to do one thing, which is to review with their children what they have learned that day every night.
Ask your child:
– How many exercises are there in each subject today?
– What is the level of difficulty of each subject?
– How does your child want to start?
– Which subject does your child want to start with?
If the child is ready, start with the most difficult subjects first, from difficult to easy, to improve the efficiency of doing homework.
If you are too tired, first do some simple tasks that do not require too much mental effort. When the child is more interested, add more difficult tasks.
In this process, the child has only one requirement, which is concentration.
Children lack self-confidence but parents should
Romain Rolland once said that the scariest enemy is a lack of firm self-belief. If parents don’t help children develop this belief from an early age, it will be difficult for them to form this character when they grow up.
Self-confidence is the foundation of self-confidence and the motivation for children to overcome life’s challenges. If children are not nurtured to believe in their abilities, they will easily give up when faced with difficulties, leading to discouragement and a lack of motivation in pursuing their dreams.
Nurture the inner belief in children.
In fact, giving up is easy but persisting is difficult. In life, children will face many challenges and failures. The most important thing is to teach children perseverance from the beginning, to understand that failure is not the end but only a part of the journey.
When children experience failure, if they receive support and encouragement from their parents, they will learn to get up and try again. That is when children develop the ability to grow through real-life experiences, thereby forming a resilient and resilient spirit.
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