2 parenting mistakes Japanese parents don’t make, raising independent and well-behaved children from an early age

Since childhood, Japanese parents have always aimed to teach their children independence. That is why there are two things that Japanese parents do not do when teaching their children.


Not indulging, but protecting the child

There is a very clear expression of excessive love for the child, which is when parents feel sorry for the child to endure the bad consequences caused by the child’s own actions. Therefore, they are not willing to stand by and watch their child suffer without extending a helping hand or even watching their child go through these difficulties also makes them feel guilty.

Almost every parent loves their child unconditionally, hoping that the child receives the sweetest and best things. Although the family is a place of love, it should also be a place of education and proper upbringing. If a child only knows about winning and does not know how to face failure, it will be difficult for them to stand firm in life.

Currently, many parents with means tend to indulge their children to the fullest. They work to earn money only to provide their children with a comfortable life. This is not wrong, but being overly pampered inadvertently deprives children of the opportunity to be self-reliant and explore the world. Only when children walk on their own feet can they achieve good results and possess the ability to live independently in the future.

Parents should differentiate between protection and love because the boundary between them is very fragile. No matter how much they love their children, they should let their children know what discipline is, what failure is, and the consequences of doing bad things.

The family is the first environment to teach children that before they step into the world and face much more difficulties.

Not doing things for the child

Signs of parents doing things for their children usually involve always giving orders, instructing children to do this or that unconditionally for children’s demands (even if children have no need, they still give). Or always wanting the child to meet and obey their own desires (without caring about what the child wants, even if they listen to the child, they do not respect the child’s opinions)…

Many parents believe that they are adults, they have a lot of experience, and they know clearly what is good and bad. Therefore, young children who do not know anything should listen to the decisions of adults, which is good for them. In fact, parents also want only good things for their children, but sometimes the child’s perspective is not the same.

If parents do things for their children and do not let them make decisions, it will make the child feel useless and not be able to participate in anything related to themselves.

If a child expresses an opinion and is rebutted or considered meaningless, it can also make the child tend to become insecure and label themselves as useless.

Better yet, adults should listen to the opinions of young children, partly to understand them better, and partly to change their educational methods to be suitable for the child’s personality and stages of development.

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