The EQ, or emotional quotient, is a measure of emotions, ability, competence, skills (in the model of emotional intelligence) or self-perception to identify, evaluate, and regulate the emotions of oneself, others, and different emotional groups. Nowadays, the EQ is highly valued. Many experts believe that the EQ determines 80% of a person’s success.
For boys, the education and guidance of fathers have a significant impact on their EQ. Experts advise telling children these things to help increase their emotions.
Tell your child that dad has failed millions of times
In the eyes of children, dads are idols so they may think that dads never fail. But even when they are young, a boy needs to know that his father has failed twice as many times as he has succeeded, in hundreds of different things. So when the father shares this with the child, the child will understand not to idolize his father and will be more open, confident, and determined if he is not successful. In addition, the father should teach the child how to stand up every time he fails, as that will be a motivation for the child to try harder.
Tell your child that dad is proud of him
In the father-son relationship, when a father tells his son that he is proud of him, it will help the son increase his self-esteem and confidence. It not only encourages the child but also gives the child more emotion to encourage others and become a cute son in the eyes of others.
Tell your child loving words about mom
Saying loving words to the mother of children is a great thing that every father should do. Furthermore, fathers should explain why they love the mother of their children, such as: “Mom cooks delicious dishes for us, she is great” or “Mom prepares water for both of us to play soccer, we have to thank mom.”
The compliments, encouragement, and encouragement you give to your wife when your child hears them will help the child learn how to express his feelings to his future partner.
Be happy before making others happy
A true man is a man who knows how to make others happy, a support for others. But if they do not love themselves, it will be difficult to make others happy. If you do not know how to love yourself, know yourself, accept and support yourself, how can you do that for others? Sacrifice consciously is sometimes useful but if it is the only thing a boy is taught, it will no longer be a choice. It develops into a default selfish regime, leading to many problems in the future.
Tell your child that dad is here for him
It is meaningless if a father says he loves his child but is not present and does not spend time with him. Boys may not talk as much as girls, but your child needs to know that when he needs someone to talk to, dad will always be there. Never let your child doubt if you are there for him in any case or not. And fathers should remember to fulfill promises to their children.
Tell your child words that show empathy
Listening is a way for you to understand what others are going through. It also reflects patience and generosity, expressed through asking questions, listening to the child’s explanations, and interpreting one’s own thoughts. A father who can show empathy well will help nurture a boy who knows how to listen and share.
Has your child made every effort?
In the moment you see your son doing something halfway, ask him if he has really made every effort. Children often do well in their work when encouraged to make more effort. “A father tells his son, ‘This is not your best achievement, try again. That is the teacher that the son respects the most.” In sports, science, math, or art, it is the same. If a coach, advisor, or father demands rigor but with love and fairness, the young man will work harder for that coach and achieve more than he thinks is possible.
You are doing very well
Do not criticize, do not belittle, do not show disappointment when your child has not performed well. Encourage your child when he does well and encourage him that his father believes in him. This simple statement will be an encouragement for your child to be able to continue on a long journey.
Instead of focusing on what your child is not doing well, focus on encouraging what your child is doing well.
Treat others the way you want to be treated
Teaching your son to treat others the way he wants to be treated not only helps improve social interaction but also brings results in team sports and even helps children understand more about the community.