“Parents’ words shape their children’s destiny: The power of positive parenting”

Raising a child is not just about providing them with food, clothing, and education. Every word spoken by parents has a significant impact on the destiny of their child.


The ancients have a saying that the fate of a child is determined by the mother. In the past, the roles of teaching and nurturing children belonged to the mother, while the father was responsible for earning money. But nowadays, this saying applies to both fathers and mothers, as both play an equal role in determining the lives of their children and how they are raised. Every word and expression from parents to their children influences their personality and has an impact on their psychology and thinking.


Friendly parents, good children

Every word from parents to their children is a form of education. Family education is still the foundation before children receive education from schools and society. Therefore, the words and attitudes of parents, their tolerance, love, and openness give children confidence and optimism. On the other hand, parents’ rudeness and harshness make children fearful or react negatively.

Criticism, negative remarks, badmouthing, and malicious words exhaust and scare children.

Parents, don’t assume that your children know nothing

The ancients said: “A kind word warms three winter months, a malicious word chills six months.” Therefore, in raising and educating children, it is not only about providing them with enough food, good schools, and comfortable lives, but also paying attention to their words and attitudes in communication. Do not be careless in speaking and think that children quickly forget and do not think much. Words can stick in a child’s mind and have a lasting impact, bringing them emotional damage until adulthood. Avoid making bitter and mean remarks, as well as unintentional jokes like saying that a mother does not love her child, that she abandoned the child in a field, or that she gave the child away to a beggar. These jokes may seem normal to parents, but they can affect children greatly. Therefore, parents should be mindful of such jokes.


Parents’ words determine their children’s success or failure

Your comments about your children can make them go in the right direction or deviate. Therefore, be cautious when talking about your child’s abilities. In psychology, when children receive praise, encouragement, and trust from their parents, they gain positive energy and become motivated to do their best, which helps them achieve success and meet the expectations of their closest and most trusted figures, their parents. Many people think that praising and encouraging children will make them conceited, so they often criticize and belittle them. Sometimes, this actually makes children lose confidence and prevents them from reaching their full potential.

Therefore, be careful when talking about your child’s abilities. Praise your child specifically for their achievements, rather than using general praise. Do not belittle your child.


The words of parents are the feng shui of their children’s lives

Warm and affectionate parents make their children feel confident, loved, and emotionally connected. Cold and harsh parents make children fearful and distant. The way parents nurture their children shapes them. Resentful and critical parents make their children timid and angry. Tolerant and loving parents raise children with compassion and kindness.

How parents correct their children determines whether they will repent or turn into enemies

When a child makes a mistake, if parents are understanding and explain things, the child will be honest and repent. If parents criticize, scold, and threaten, the child will try to lie and avoid taking responsibility. Therefore, be cautious when punishing your child.

Children are a reflection of their parents. Good parents have good children. Parents who educate their children improperly and express their love in the wrong way will have weak and selfish children. When we become parents, we learn how to be human again, because every word, expression, and action of ours directly affects the lives of our children. Children learn from our words and attitudes. Their character, personality, and abilities are greatly influenced by the attitudes of their parents. Therefore, as parents, we need to have certain standards in our communication and child-rearing, and be even more cautious with our words. Parents with courage, tolerance, and love will raise well-developed children. Harsh and bitter parents will raise tired and vulnerable children.

Parents with ethics will have grateful children. Parents lacking goodness will have disobedient children.

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