In 1981, upon assuming the role of CEO of the world’s largest multinational corporation, General Electric (GE), Jack Welch shared in his autobiography, “Jack,” that “on the surface, I appeared very confident. Those who knew me described me as arrogant, proud, decisive, and strong. But deep down, I had deep insecurities. In front of crowds, I struggled with a stutter, and whenever someone asked about my height, I always convinced myself that I was an inch and a half taller than I actually was, even though my true height was only 5 feet 8 inches (approximately 173 cm).”
How did Jack overcome these obstacles? The answer lies in the encouragement he received from his mother. She told him, as he was struggling with his stutter, “It’s because you’re so smart, your tongue can’t keep up with the speed of your brain.” Her uplifting words helped Jack overcome his self-doubt and changed his perspective on everything, transforming him into a master of self-motivation and a motivator of others.
A mother’s influence on her children’s lives is profound, from shaping their decisions about major life events to developing their social skills. A mother’s role is irreplaceable and of utmost importance.
The profound influence of a mother on her children’s lives
The success of children in a family can often be predicted by the mother’s habits. Here are 3 types of mothers who often make mistakes in raising their children:
Complaining and Avoiding Responsibility
In life, everyone faces challenges. Some people quietly overcome obstacles, while others look for excuses and blame their circumstances without taking personal responsibility. A woman who constantly complains not only makes the family atmosphere heavy but also creates a gray haze that envelops all family members. In this environment, hope, joy, and vitality are extinguished.
Mothers who have a habit of shirking responsibility will teach their children to do the same. They never introspect, face, or resolve issues with a positive attitude. Instead, they complain, retreat, and escape. If they don’t address the root cause, they’ll never learn from their mistakes, and their lives won’t improve. Gradually, they’ll become entangled in their problems and blame others.
Only responsible people can make life better. They understand that they must rely on their own efforts. Even in temporary difficulties, they stand firm, strong, and brave.
If you want your children to have such willpower and qualities, stop complaining, adopt a positive attitude, and fight with all your might.
Only responsible people can make life better
Short-Sighted Thinking and Unforeseeable Consequences
People who focus only on immediate gains often fail to develop and progress sustainably. Many mothers are content with the present, lacking long-term plans and vision. Consequently, their quality of life gradually declines, leading to unforeseen troubles.
Some mothers even fail to recognize their children’s talents and potential. Children raised in such environments often lack foresight, self-control, and ambition, becoming complacent and missing out on valuable opportunities.
It’s crucial to build self-confidence and a positive outlook on life. Understand your children’s needs, encourage them to pursue their dreams, and provide support. This is far more meaningful and valuable than merely focusing on certificates and awards.
Many children complain to their parents about the exhaustion of studying. Indulgent mothers often give in, allowing their children to be lazy. Conversely, mothers with foresight will encourage their children to understand that academic struggles are stepping stones to future success. They teach their children that learning is not about pleasing parents or teachers but about building their future. With knowledge, children can choose their path.
Children cannot depend on their parents forever. Mothers with foresight won’t plan their children’s lives but will skillfully let go, fostering their independence and sense of responsibility. As they grow up, encountering failure is inevitable. If parents only talk about success, children may panic and choose a negative path when faced with failure.
A mother with foresight will allow her children to experience failure. She will explain the importance of success while also helping them understand that failure is a normal part of life. This teaches children to face and overcome challenges, becoming resilient and capable of rising above any circumstance.
Arrogance and Unreasonableness
An authoritarian mother cannot raise confident and brave children. Under her intense pressure, children grow up obedient because they are used to control and have long forgotten how to fight for their rights. As a result, they lose their courage and self-control in life.
How can someone lacking independent judgment and self-confidence stand firm in today’s highly competitive society?
If the child of a complaining mother lacks a positive attitude, and the child of a blind mother lacks confidence, then the child of an authoritarian mother will lack courage and perseverance.
As a mother, you need to respect your child’s personality, understand their likes and dislikes, and establish an equal relationship so they can freely express their thoughts.
While every mother wants her children to succeed, many make mistakes in parenting. If you recognize your shortcomings, change now, and strive to become a better mother, your children will grow up in a healthy and loving environment.
