After some in-depth investigation, she discovered that the root of the problem lay in the child’s growing laziness. The child was always distracted while studying. As soon as they sat down, they would want to go out and play. When the parents reminded them, the child would immediately have an emotional outburst.
Below the comment, an expert pointed out two core issues that cause children’s academic performance to decline, which parents should recognize early on.
Lack of perseverance and poor study habits over an extended period.
Initially average students can, with perseverance and good study habits, continue to improve and achieve results beyond expectations.
In reality, most children have similar levels of intelligence. What really creates a gap is diligence and hard work.
If a child is lazy in their studies, thinking, attitude, and perseverance, their academic performance will gradually decline. In the new term, parents should pay attention to their child’s attitude towards learning. Laziness is like a chronic disease, making it harder for children to study and even reducing their willpower over time.
After exams, when parents ask why their child made mistakes in certain questions, the child often blames it on “carelessness.” They might say they forgot a formula or miscalculated an answer due to carelessness.
Lack of perseverance and poor study habits over time.
An experienced teacher summarized two types of laziness in children: physical laziness, where the child doesn’t like to write in class, has poor eyesight, and weak hands; and mental laziness, where the child mechanically takes notes and answers questions without thinking or while still pondering.
As the old saying goes, “Learning without thinking is futile.” By combining learning with thinking, children can avoid daydreaming and truly master the knowledge. High-quality learning is far more effective than low-quality diligence. Careful thinking is the key to acquiring knowledge well.
Diligent children usually review what they’ve learned during the day before going to bed; they don’t procrastinate, complete their assignments on time, focus on accumulation, read, keep a journal, and actively identify and solve problems.
There are no shortcuts to becoming an excellent student except by facing reality, cultivating, and refining oneself. If a child’s efforts are not proportional to their achievements, parents should be alert to whether they are falling into a state of “pseudo-diligence” and help them improve in time.
Indulgent parents are often the root cause of a lazy child.
Strict parents can raise diligent and practical children, while indulgent parents who unconditionally give in to their children’s demands will hinder their self-improvement. Being strict doesn’t mean a lack of love; it’s a way of showing love by setting clear expectations and rules. These rules help children understand the importance of values and responsibilities, thus forming good habits for the future.
Far-sighted parents will firmly refuse when their child wants to be lazy. They understand that some difficulty and challenge in the learning process will help their child develop endurance and self-reliance. On the other hand, many parents are indecisive and easily give in to their children’s demands, leading to a lack of awareness of the value of hard work.
Many parents easily give in to their children’s demands.
If parents want their children to develop good study habits, they should not arbitrarily break the rules. Rules and expectations are the foundation for children to learn self-management and develop the necessary life skills.
Behind every excellent child are loving but strict parents. This combination of love and discipline is crucial for children to feel secure and supported in their development.
All parents want their children to be happy, but happiness takes time. If children choose to be lax during their formative years, their path ahead will be bumpy. Parents should convey that hard work in studies is not just a temporary task but an investment in the future. Tell them that studying hard now will enable them to be self-reliant later, pursuing their dreams and passions without depending on others.
Additionally, creating a positive and motivating learning environment will make children more interested in learning. Parents can plan their children’s studies, participate in educational activities, or simply create a quiet and comfortable space for them to focus. When children feel supported, they will be more motivated to put in the effort.
All success requires effort.
However, parents should remember that strictness should not create pressure but rather support. Encourage your children to always try their best, but also let them explore and develop in their own way.
When children feel respected and have the space to grow, they will become confident individuals capable of overcoming life’s challenges. The combination of love and discipline will help them develop well and become responsible, independent, and happy adults.
“The First Eight Years: Nurturing Your Child’s Character Development”
“Don’t worry if you can’t build a house yet; focus on building yourself first. Investing in self-improvement will save you a fortune in the long run, and the results will be well worth the wait. The first eight years of a child’s life are crucial, so parents must prioritize accompanying their children during this formative period.”