The following are six good habits that can help nurture a child’s talent and build a bright future:
1. Cultivate a Love for Learning
Both family and school education are temporary, and learning goes beyond textbooks. It’s essential to learn manners and life skills alongside academic knowledge.
“A child must find peace in learning, not for the sake of expanding their talents or fulfilling ambitions.”
Learning is not always easy, and many children tend to give up halfway through. It’s important to instill determination and create a quiet space for focused study, free from distractions and unproductive thoughts.
A child who is mindful of their posture and attentive during study time is more likely to retain information and develop a brighter future.
2. Instill a Sense of Shame
“The Book of Rites: The Meaning of Ritual” says: “Shame is close to courage.”孟子也说:“Shame is the extreme of righteousness.”
Shame is a sign of a person’s integrity, and a lack of it is a character flaw. Feeling ashamed of one’s wrongdoings is a moral awakening and the first step towards self-improvement.
Children who do not feel shame tend to act recklessly, make more mistakes, and develop a dislike for things.
3. Foster Motivation
Take the example of Fan Zhongyan, a Song Dynasty chancellor. Orphaned at a young age, he vowed to take care of himself and left home to study in a temple.
Fan Zhongyan endured hardships, eating porridge to sustain himself and splashing cold water on his face to stay awake during late-night studies. His perseverance paid off, and he eventually became a renowned figure, with his family name lasting for 800 years.
Parents should not pressure their children to top entrance exams or get into a prestigious university. Instead, focus on cultivating self-discipline, ensuring they don’t give up on their studies.
4. Encourage Diligence and Frugality
Zeng Guofan said: “The average person in the world is defeated by one word: lazy. I don’t know how many children have been ruined by laziness and how many have missed out.”
Whether a child is gifted or average, from a well-off or humble background, diligence and frugality are essential virtues.
The harder one works, the luckier they get. Luck, in this context, is the result of hard work.
Diligence and frugality lay the foundation, and loyalty will be the legacy. These ancient teachings from wise men hold profound truths.
5. Teach Perseverance
Once, Socrates assigned his students a task, asking them to clap their hands 100 times a day. A week later, 90% claimed to have done it. A month later, half of them refused to continue. A year on, only one student persisted—the great philosopher Plato.
Among Socrates’ students, many were smarter than Plato, but his achievements were the result of his unwavering perseverance.
6. Impart the Value of Rule-Following
Children should learn to follow rules and respect regulations and laws. This is not to confine their thinking or stifle their creativity but to ensure their freedom and well-being.
Rules provide a framework for human freedom, not a restriction or deprivation of it.