In ancient times, before writing became widespread, our ancestors often conveyed life experiences and philosophies through spoken words, especially in the form of folk poems called “ca dao” in Vietnamese, which are typically composed in a six-eight poetic form.
One of the most well-known folk poems succinctly captures four acts considered foolish: “In life, there are four foolish things: matchmaking, debt guarantee, bird trapping, and leading a singing troupe.”
The foolishness of “matchmaking”
In the old days, our ancestors considered “matchmaking,” or arranging marriages for others, as one of the most unwise things to do. Unlike professional matchmaking services today, matchmakers in the past were often villagers who voluntarily brought two parties together, sometimes receiving only a token of appreciation such as a small amount of money for tea or snacks.
However, matchmaking does not always end well. If the matched couple lives happily ever after, the matchmaker is thanked. But if the marriage turns sour, conflicts arise, or it ends in divorce, the matchmaker is often blamed, accused of introducing the wrong person, hiding information, or lacking discernment.
In reality, no one can fully understand the intricacies of both families involved. Therefore, if a match turns sour, the matchmaker is likely to face backlash from both sides. Hence, our ancestors concluded that “matchmaking” is the first foolish act to be avoided.
The foolishness of “debt guarantee”
Standing guarantor for someone else’s debt may seem like an act of kindness, but according to folk wisdom, it is the second foolish thing to do. In a smooth scenario, the borrower repays the debt in full, and there are no issues. However, if the borrower defaults, the guarantor bears the consequences.
You may find yourself in a dilemma: pressured by the lender and denied responsibility by the borrower, who may even turn against you. Both sides could turn their backs on you, resulting in financial loss and damaged relationships. Therefore, the old saying warns that being a “debt guarantor” is inviting trouble and as foolish as tying a stone to your own leg.
The foolishness of “bird trapping”
“Bird trapping,” or hunting the cuckoo bird using a decoy bird, has been a pastime for many, especially in rural areas. While it may seem like harmless entertainment, preparing for a hunting trip requires considerable effort, from choosing the right decoy bird to training and finding the ideal spot.
However, the outcome is uncertain. One might spend an entire day without catching any birds, and even the precious decoy bird could fly away. This potential failure leads outsiders to view “bird trapping” as a foolish waste of time, inviting frustration. Thus, our ancestors considered it one of the four representative foolish acts in life.
The foolishness of “leading a singing troupe”
“Leading a singing troupe” refers to the role of a “chau dau” in traditional “ca tru” or “a dao” singing performances. The “chau dau” would beat a drum to show appreciation or disapproval of the singer’s performance, acting as both an audience and a judge.
This role may seem honorable, but it is delicate. Criticism can offend the performer, and praise can be seen as biased. The “chau dau” also had to pay a substantial amount of money to be respected. Therefore, our ancestors concluded that “leading a singing troupe” is foolish, as it involves artistic judgment that not only costs money but also invites trouble and potential scandal.
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