Only allowing a successful child
In this situation, a child has to grow up in a family that values competition and only values achievements. The motto in the house is that it doesn’t matter if you’re not the best.
Even love for the child is conditional: when the child wins first place in a competition, gets high marks, or wins first prize in exams, they will receive lots of praise and attention. But if the child can’t do those things, they will become a disappointment for the family.
Children who grow up in such a family environment often feel a lack of constant affection.
Parents criticizing and belittling their child
It’s unacceptable for parents to be irritable, angry, and have unrealistic expectations for their children. When children can’t meet those demands, they will be criticized. In families with two or more children, parents often praise the ones who do well and look down upon the other children.
Children who grow up in such a family environment often feel hurt and insecure. Therefore, when they grow up, they become selfish, always seeking attention and trying to prove themselves to the world and their parents that they are exceptional and that their parents were mistaken.
Parents spoiling their child too much
Many parents constantly show off, praise their children as talented and intelligent, sometimes to an unreasonable extent. They praise everything their children do.
It is necessary and beneficial to praise a child when they do something good. However, excessive praise is unnecessary as it can distort a child’s perception of reality in the future.
A child who is spoiled excessively runs the risk of developing unrealistic beliefs about their abilities and themselves. They can become arrogant and overly self-centered, only caring about themselves. This can lead to serious consequences later on, such as psychological issues, difficulties in relationships, and even exposure to social problems.