Parents who are close to their children can positively impact their future development. In particular, children tend to thrive when they have a strong bond with fathers who exhibit the following three qualities:
1. Fathers who are patient and understanding
Children have their own unique worlds, and before bedtime, they often want to share their experiences, thoughts, and feelings with their parents. It could be about their day, their learning, or anything that captures their interest.
Even if their stories seem silly or disjointed, they are a reflection of their imagination and creativity. Fathers who are patient will listen attentively, showing respect for their children’s thoughts and feelings. They will not brush off their children’s stories or rush them to sleep.
As French educator Pameda Druckerman wisely stated, “Even if a child makes a mistake, parents should listen and try to understand their motivations. Unusual behavior often has a reason behind it. Parents should carefully listen to their children and explain the world to them.”
Patience from fathers fosters a sense of understanding and trust in children, encouraging open communication. On the other hand, if fathers consistently dismiss or ignore their children’s attempts at conversation, the children may gradually distance themselves and become more reserved.
2. Fathers with good character and morals
Children learn by observing and mimicking their parents’ behavior and attitudes. This process significantly shapes their personalities and values, for better or worse.
When sharing a bed with their fathers, children absorb their fathers’ behavior and communication style. They witness their fathers’ true selves, especially in the privacy of the bedroom.
If a father is gentle, kind, and cheerful, the child will grow up in a loving and comfortable family atmosphere. On the other hand, if a father is irritable and prone to arguing, the child may feel pressured and even traumatized.
3. Fathers who are wise and knowledgeable
Research suggests that only 50% of a child’s intelligence is inherited, while the rest is largely influenced by education and training. Wise fathers can enhance their children’s intelligence by sharing meaningful stories, fairy tales, and life lessons before bedtime.
Through these stories, children learn about resilience, overcoming challenges, and dealing with failure. This type of father-child interaction fosters confidence, dynamism, and a strong sense of self in children.