An elderly couple always doted on their youngest son, even secretly giving him their retirement money. However, the unbelievable thing is that the most filial child is actually another child.
The Truong couple has a total of three children, but among them, the youngest son is always the most favored. Because they were already old when their youngest son was born, they put more effort and affection into raising this child. Taking care of three children is not easy, but the elderly couple always reserved the “good things” for their youngest son. Although the eldest daughter and eldest son complained a bit, the couple believed that there was nothing wrong with that.
Despite favoring their youngest son, the elderly couple were very generous when their eldest daughter got married. Especially during the wedding preparations, they spared no expense. The purpose was to ensure that their daughter would be confident when living with her husband and wouldn’t have to face any disrespect.
However, a few years after their second son got married, when the family’s finances declined, the elderly couple decided not to spend a lot of money on their youngest son’s wedding. When their second son got married, they only gave him a frying pan as a gift. Fortunately, both their second son and daughter-in-law made efforts and lived happily despite the difficulties.
When their youngest son got married, the Truong couple used all their savings to buy a house for him and his wife as a wedding gift. To avoid disrupting their youngest son’s life, they decided to live elsewhere so their son could use the house. However, recently, when Mr. Truong had a slipped disc and Mrs. Truong also faced health problems, taking care of them became very difficult.
Even when the elderly couple thought of asking their youngest son for help, he said, “I don’t have time to take care of you, please find my siblings!” This made the elderly couple feel angry, wanting to ask their eldest daughter for help, but she had married and lived far away. In the end, their second son brought them back home and took care of them without complaining. Seeing the care from their second son, the Truong couple regretted not treating their second son well before.
Which child is the most filial in a large family? The “unfavored one” turns out to be the most filial child.
Used to contributing to the family
Used to facing injustice from their parents, these children still show special dedication to their family. Despite being disadvantaged and not being highly valued, they have learned to be flexible and make positive contributions to the family, which has become an indispensable part of their mentality.
Although they do not fully depend on their parents’ care, their willingness to dedicate themselves to the family remains a strong motivation for maintaining a strong relationship with their family.
Desire for parental approval
Strongly desiring approval from their parents, especially when they are not highly regarded, often makes these children crave recognition. This desire motivates them to make efforts and work hard to gain recognition from their parents.
Used to compromising with parents
Used to compromising with their parents from an early age, these children have learned to do so because they do not receive favoritism from their parents. Despite having their own demands and desires, they will understand and view themselves in a critical light when they fail to satisfy their parents. This compromising skill also helps these unloved children become understanding and easily reconcile with their parents.
Fair treatment of all children
Fair treatment of all children is important, especially in large families. Parental favoritism towards certain children is not good for the educational process. In large families, treating children fairly in terms of time and affection is crucial for creating a harmonious environment.
Avoid arbitrary comparisons with children
Limiting unnecessary comparisons in families with multiple children is recommended. Blind comparisons not only hurt the self-esteem of children but also do not bring any benefits. Instead, parents should focus on encouraging each child to develop according to their own individuality.
In conclusion, to ensure the well-being of the family and the filial piety of children, parents need to pay special attention to education and avoid unfair favoritism, so that children can grow up confident and independent.
