Sometimes, memories will flash instantly, bringing a mysterious, powerful energy, a warm and soft strength to overcome life’s challenges.
Now that we are parents, let’s create moments that will empower and inspire our children’s future.
When Children Feel Safe
In the world of children, there are many things that can be frightening. It could be the wind, rain, or thunder in nature, or monsters in fairy tales and cartoons. Even the scary look on a parent’s face when they are angry can be intimidating.
These fears may seem irrational to adults, but for children, they are very real and powerful, reflecting their sensitivity and emotional development.
Therefore, children will remember the warm moments when their mother was by their side during a thunderstorm, when their father hugged them tightly after a nightmare, or when their parents appeared just as disappointment struck. These moments make children feel safe and build a strong foundation for their psychological development.
They create positive memories, and children understand that there are people who are always willing to protect and love them, no matter the circumstances.
No matter what a child goes through, when they are scared, sad, lonely, or frustrated, the first thing parents should do is remain calm and be present for their children. A parent’s presence is a source of comfort and reassurance that they are loved and not alone.
It is important to accompany children through these difficult emotions and provide a sense of safety. When children feel accepted, they are more likely to open up and share their worries and fears.
A time when children feel safe and loved.
When Children Receive Attention from Their Parents
Nowadays, many parents only “accompany” their children physically but not mentally. In some cases, children play alone while parents are on their phones or chatting with others. This creates a distance, and children feel lonely and disconnected.
When children do not receive attention and care from their parents, they gradually feel unimportant, leading to low self-esteem and a lack of confidence in social relationships.
Over time, children may receive only token gestures and coping mechanisms instead of love and care. This can cause them to seek attention elsewhere, sometimes leading to undesirable behaviors, such as seeking approval from peers or engaging in unhealthy activities.
There’s a saying: “The best gift parents can give their children is their time.” Because giving time means giving a part of your life.
Spending time with children creates happy moments and opportunities to make lasting memories.
A time when children receive attention and care.
When Children See Their Parents Expressing Affection for Each Other
Children will remember many details about their parents’ interactions, whether intimate or conflicting. These moments greatly influence their emotions and shape how they perceive relationships and love.
Psychologists have pointed out that if parents constantly point out each other’s flaws, their children are more likely to develop those same flaws. Children learn to be critical and intolerant of others’ shortcomings.
On the other hand, when parents praise or respect each other’s strengths, children pick up on this positive information. Expressions of admiration and support between parents create a positive family atmosphere. Children learn the value of respect and love and, in turn, form healthy relationships.
This is the psychology of children. What they desire most is for their parents to love each other, because children who grow up surrounded by love will have beautiful memories and experience the power of love and support.
A moment when children see their parents expressing affection.
When Children Experience a Warm and Happy Family Atmosphere
A warm family atmosphere doesn’t have to be grand. It could be as simple as celebrating each family member’s birthday every year, reading together on Sundays, or traveling during holidays to visit extended family.
Memories such as joyful family meals, movie nights, or picnics can become precious memories that children cherish forever.
These simple yet meaningful moments contribute to a strong family bond, and children feel loved and cared for.
As children grow up, the values they learn from their family will influence how they treat others, build relationships, and create their own happiness.
A moment when children experience a warm and happy family atmosphere.