Surrounding yourself with optimistic and positive people will make you feel brighter and more energized. On the other hand, if you spend time with negative people, you are more likely to feel discouraged, pessimistic, and even experience more bad luck and failures.
Besides hard work and accumulation, a better life depends on our mental state, energy, and inner resources. These factors directly influence one’s luck.
Once your luck is “borrowed,” your life may start to decline and become more difficult. “Borrowing” luck is not a mysterious concept but refers to others using various methods to deplete your energy and resources, aiming to rise by pulling you down. This is the scariest part as you may be influenced by these bad people unknowingly, making your life gloomy.
Here’s some advice: don’t let others “borrow” your luck, especially the following two types:

1. Your Positive Energy
Everyone has their own energy field, which can be positive and bright or gloomy. During communication, our energy fields interact. Spending time with high-energy people will bring you happiness, while low-energy individuals may bring obstacles into your life.
This is when someone has “borrowed” your positive energy, and you’ve taken on their negative energy, making your life naturally more challenging.
There’s a story about a young man who, after graduating from university, joined a large company. Thanks to his intelligence, hard work, and ambition, he completed several important projects and gained the favor of his superiors.
With a positive and optimistic personality, he was well-liked by his friends, who enjoyed being around him. Among them was a man named Truong. As they both liked sports such as mountain climbing, they quickly became close friends.
For a while, Truong became sad. Being kind-hearted, Lam wanted to help his friend and told Truong that he could come to him with any problem. From then on, Truong frequently contacted Lam. At first, Truong complained about work issues, and Lam patiently comforted him. Then, he started venting about family, friends, and even trivial matters, and Lam patiently listened and advised.
Over time, Lam realized his life had changed. He used to be patient, but now, he would get angry over minor issues and feel irritated all the time, which affected his work performance. Meanwhile, Truong’s life became smoother. He not only found a satisfying job but also met his ideal life partner.
In psychology, there’s the “law of attraction,” which states that like attracts like. If you surround yourself with low-energy people, your energy will be drained, and your spirit will deteriorate.
Truly wise people know how to protect their energy. They don’t spend too much energy solving others’ problems, or they’ll be exhausted physically and mentally.
Everyone’s energy is limited. Proactively seek positive energy sources to feel better.
2. Your Relationship Credibility
A man accumulated a considerable fortune through hard work. His family lived harmoniously and happily.
One day, a relative wanted to start a business but lacked capital. This relative was introduced to a lending company, but a guarantor was required. The relative approached the man and said he would only borrow for three months and that the business would surely succeed. Out of family consideration, the man didn’t think much and signed the guarantee.
Unexpectedly, after three months, the lending company contacted him, saying that the relative hadn’t repaid the loan. According to the contract, the man had to take responsibility. He hurriedly contacted the relative but couldn’t find him. The relative’s family also denied knowing anything about it. Finally, the company sued the man. Since he had signed the contract, he had to bear joint liability. Not only did he lose all his savings, but he also had to sell his house to repay the debt.
In life, there are people like this. They take advantage of your credibility, and you end up bearing the severe consequences. Remember, when it comes to your personal credibility, be very careful, as once it’s “borrowed,” you may have to trade your happiness for the rest of your life.
How can we prevent others from “borrowing” our luck?
First, set clear boundaries in your relationships.
Kindness is a virtue, but it should be in moderation. You can help others, but don’t let yourself get entangled in their troubles or emotions. This is not selfishness but responsibility for yourself.
Second, regularly review your friend list.
We meet many people in our lives, but not everyone is suitable to be our friend. Some are compatible, and some are not. Therefore, review your relationships.
If there are relationships that make you feel tired, worried, sad, or constantly drain your energy, stay away immediately, as these are signs of “borrowing” luck.
Finally, learn and improve yourself.
No matter your age, take the time to learn and improve yourself. The stronger you become, the better you can avoid bad people on your life path.
Love yourself, protect what you have, and walk firmly, one step at a time, toward a brighter and more colorful life. May you live a sober life, be firm-minded, maintain your essence in the turbulent flow of life, be determined on your path, and have a heart full of hope for a bright future!