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What to say to grandparents when visiting the countryside?

There will be some young people who struggle to communicate and don't know what to say to their grandparents because they didn't live with them as children. If so, let's follow our article to learn how to talk to our grandparents when we go back to our hometown for Tet.

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27 January, 2024

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There are many young people who do not live with their grandparents from an early age and can only visit them once a year. Due to the distance, besides greeting and caring for them, sometimes you may be confused about how to communicate, have a more intimate conversation with your grandparents or older adults. Here are some topics you can refer to in order to know how to talk to your grandparents.

1 Ask your grandparents about your parents or uncles and aunts when they were young

Your parents or uncles and aunts when they were young

When you are born and grow up, you can only understand what kind of personalities your parents and uncles and aunts have as adults, but only your grandparents can know what they were like when they were children. Because of that, you should start a conversation with your grandparents about this topic so that you can establish a closer relationship with your loved ones.

2 What happened on the day you were born?

The day you were born

The moment of birth is when your mother has to struggle with pain, and your father is worried and anxious for your mother because she has to endure the pain of giving birth to a baby. This moment is only experienced and remembered by your grandparents who have the most experience and calmness. Chat with your grandparents to find out the nuances, expressions, and actions of your parents during childbirth, waiting for birth, and after giving birth to you,…

3 What helps your grandparents stay together for a long time?

Your grandparents’ life

After asking about your parents, switch the topic to the main characters, your grandparents. Your current situation may not be surprising because there are many divorces among couples, but in your grandparents’ time, marital breakdown was rare.

Through this topic, you can find out the secrets, forgiveness or ways to maintain a long-lasting marriage relationship of your grandparents, from which you can draw lessons and experiences for your own fulfilling and lasting life.

4 What was your grandparents’ love story like before getting married?

Your grandparents’ love story

Before entering married life, everyone will surely go through some relationships, and your grandparents are no exception. Ask them about what your grandfather did for his lover back then, how they pursued and confessed their love,… This will definitely be a topic that will make your grandparents very happy.

5 What talents do your grandparents have?

Your grandparents’ talents

Through this topic, you can find out if your grandparents have any special talents, such as music, painting, sports,… After learning about them, you can see if your talents are similar to theirs or if you have inherited their natural abilities, which is great.

6 What about the war do your grandparents never forget?

The war time

Surely, when your grandparents were born and raised, it was a time when they had to live in the harsh conditions of war, the fragility between life and death. This is certainly memories that they will never forget. Through their stories, you will also understand a part of the country’s history.

7 What are the things that our family should preserve and develop?

Family meal

Each family will have its own lifestyle and traditions that have been maintained for many generations. For example, the family meal is the most important thing, no matter what you do during the day, you must be present for the family meal in the evening.

These things will make each family different and you can learn from them to apply to your own small family in the future.

8 What were the entertainment activities of your grandparents when they were young?

The entertainment activities of your grandparents when they were young

Each era will have different fun and entertainment activities. In your time, you go to shopping malls, watch movies, go to milk tea shops,… All of these things were not possibilities in your grandparents’ time as teenagers. So through this topic, you can find out what kind of activities people used to enjoy in that era, such as watching movies or football matches in a different way,…

9 How did your grandparents feel when they watched TV for the first time?

Your grandparents watching TV for the first time

The 1970s was the time when Vietnam had its first TVs, but they were only black and white screens. You can ask to see how your grandparents felt when they watched TV for the first time, if they were as excited as you are when you own an iPhone 12. Through this topic, you will learn somewhat about the development and progress of Vietnam’s technology.

10 What is something your grandparents really want but haven’t been able to do yet?

What is something your grandparents really want but haven’t been able to do

Surely everyone will have their own dreams and aspirations, there are some things they have completed but there are also dreams that have not been realized yet due to circumstances, due to conditions that do not allow. Through this topic, you can find out the unfinished things and you can be the one who fulfills those wishes for them.

Reference: 50+ questions to talk with the elderly

Above are my suggestions when visiting the countryside during Tet. I’m sure with these questions, you can talk to your grandparents all day long and still not run out of topics.