Children with low emotional intelligence (EQ) often struggle to achieve success. This is mainly because they feel insecure and have trouble communicating and behaving, leading to strained relationships. On the other hand, some children become overly arrogant, unaware of their limits and capabilities, and thus refuse to face reality and shy away from life’s challenges.
To help children develop better, parents can look out for signs of low EQ and intervene early on.
**Losing Calm in All Situations**
When young children feel ashamed and react confusedly, it might be a sign of emotional difficulty. Parents should ask themselves: What is causing this behavior? Are we, as parents, exhibiting similar issues? Sometimes, a child’s behavior can be a reflection of their parents’ attitudes.
According to experts, signs of low EQ can appear very early, even when a child is just one year old. These children often struggle to manage their emotions, are easily influenced by external factors, and cannot keep their cool in unexpected situations.
**Uncontrolled Communication, Quick to Blame Others**
Some children tend to speak their minds without considering the consequences. While this may be attributed to honesty, it indicates low EQ. They focus on their own comfort without regard for others’ feelings, which can lead to strained relationships and difficulties in achieving life success. This is a very negative habit, and if your child exhibits this, you should guide them to change.
Children with low EQ also tend to blame others and never admit their own mistakes. They complain about their circumstances and find it hard to be cheerful.
**Making Others Feel Inadequate**
Some people frequently point out others’ flaws without considering their feelings. As a writer once said, “Emotional intelligence is not just about communication but also knowing when to be silent, keeping some things to yourself, and protecting others’ self-esteem.” Emotionally intelligent people know what to say and what to leave unsaid.
To help your child improve in these areas, parents can take the following steps:
1. First, parents should work on self-improvement, from communication to actions, setting a good example for their children.
2. Don’t use the excuse, “They’re still young.” If you notice signs of low EQ, directly address them and make small changes.
3. It’s important to increase communication with your child. Teach them through your actions and words. Praise and encourage them when they do well, and gently correct them when they make mistakes. This strengthens family bonds and reduces shyness in sharing.
4. Teach children to recognize emotions like anger, fear, or confusion. Help them understand these emotions to manage their own feelings. Comfort them first, then explore the reasons behind their emotions, and listen to what they have to say. Most importantly, create a safe and supportive environment for them to express themselves.
5. Reading books is a great way to develop children’s EQ. Encourage them to keep a journal or participate in sports. Journaling helps children reflect on past experiences, while sports promote health and expand social connections, making them more cheerful and sociable.