One of the ways to create a connection between parents and children is through communication. Parental communication is extremely important because it creates bonding or division. Effective communication by parents helps children develop and love their parents more. On the other hand, if parents have harsh and unpleasant ways of communicating, it will distance parents and children and even cause lasting emotional damage to the child. Here are 5 ways that parents can apply:
Use positive language
Even if children make mistakes, if parents use positive language, it will help them change their behavior better than criticism or scolding. For example, if a child doesn’t put away their toys, parents can say, “Dad trusts that you will put away your toys because you always do a great job.” This type of encouraging expression not only avoids negative emotions but also enhances the child’s confidence and sense of responsibility.
Communicate with empathy
When a child faces disappointment or frustration, the top priority for parents is to understand and accept their child’s emotions. Instead of saying “Don’t be frustrated anymore,” “What does being frustrated accomplish,” say it this way, “Mom knows you’re sad, who wouldn’t be sad, but you tried your best, mom is proud of you.” This empathetic communication style can help children learn how to express and manage their emotions, while feeling supported and understood by their parents.
Collaborate with body language
In addition to verbal language, body language is also an important part of communication. Besides words, the look in the eyes, smiles, touches, holding hands… of parents can convey warmth and trust more effectively. For example, when a child shows their artwork to their parents, they can smile and look at their child with affirmative eyes, or hug their child to show pride. Body language like this has more power than any praise.
Teach through storytelling
Children fundamentally prefer to hear stories, and when they hear stories, they are more receptive to stories, so parents can convey the truth through storytelling. For example, when a child doesn’t want to share with a friend, parents can tell a story about sharing so the child understands the joy and importance of sharing in the story. Through the content of the story, children will understand better what parents want them to do.
Role play situations
Children sometimes don’t understand, can’t imagine what parents are teaching. Children need a more specific description. So parents can use role-playing to help children understand the consequences of certain actions.
For example, if a child encounters conflict at school, parents can simulate the situation with their child and explore different solutions through role-playing. This approach not only helps children learn problem-solving skills but also increases empathy.
Communication between parents and children is not only about conveying information but also teaches your child about EQ. Therefore, in parenting, learning how to communicate with your child effectively is essential.