6 signs of a well-educated child: Building blocks of success

Parents always want their children to have a bright, successful, and happy future. Research shows that children who receive good education from their parents tend to exhibit certain behaviors.


Children Know How to Treat Others

A child has the ability to comfort a mother who is feeling sad, and tears shed with friends show that they have the ability to care about the emotions of those around them. Moreover, children are able to empathize and share the sadness that others are experiencing. This sensitivity and compassionate heart reflects a developed EQ and a good family education.

Kai-Fu Lee, former CEO of Google China, once asserted that EQ is much more important than IQ in all circumstances. People with high EQ often know how to understand others, maintain emotional balance, leading to a happy and fulfilling life.

Raising a child who has the ability to comfort and understand the emotions of others is a blessing for parents. Children with this quality often solve complex social situations conveniently in the future. They also tend to be humble and not arrogant when they achieve success. Furthermore, their kindness and humanity often receive respect and admiration from others.

People with high emotional intelligence (EQ) always know how to understand and regulate their emotions, their lives are often happy and fulfilled.

Children Are Disciplined and Polite Everywhere

Parents need to nurture discipline and politeness in every action of the child from a young age. They should not neglect educating their children just because they think children are too young to understand and will easily change as they grow up. The fact is, children do not naturally have social skills; therefore, parents need to guide children on how to behave properly from an early age. The rules and behaviors learned from the beginning will follow the child throughout their life.

Seeing a child who knows how to politely greet adults, greet parents when returning home from school, tidy up belongings, turn off lights when not in use, help with household chores, ask for permission when going out and come back on time, these are signs that parents are forming good habits for their children.

At public places, a child who knows how to maintain order, not cause trouble, line up when buying tickets, and throw trash in the right place is evidence that the child is well-disciplined.

Instilling discipline in children is essential, but parents should do it seriously and skillfully, not through punishment or bitter words. The goal is to stimulate self-motivation and joy in obeying discipline. For example, instead of scolding the child: “Quickly get up, brush your teeth, and go to sleep!”, respect their choice: “What do you want to do first, brush your teeth or change into pajamas? Choose what you like.”

Children Know How to Argue

Arguing skills should not be seen as negative behavior in the process of raising children. According to a study at the University of Virginia, USA, children who challenge their parents’ views in childhood tend to develop good problem-solving skills in complex social situations and cope with pressure as they grow up. This shows that children should not be judged as bad just because they like to express their own views. In fact, having independent thoughts and opinions helps children become confident, decisive, and strong.

If a child knows how to express their views politely and humbly, it is a sign of independence and deep understanding. Therefore, when a child disagrees, parents should not get angry immediately. Instead, guide the child on how to express their views smartly and appropriately. Educating children on the method of expressing personal opinions clearly, ending with solid reasoning, arguing in a gentle and civilized manner, will help them develop logical reasoning skills, which is very important for their comprehensive development in the future.

Children who are good at arguing from an early age tend to handle conflicts and social pressures well when they grow up.

Children Can Work Within Their Abilities

Some children, despite being capable of tidying up their own rooms, often hesitate and wait for their parents to do these tasks for them, from cleaning to folding clothes. On the other hand, there are children who are very independent, not only organizing their personal space neatly but also actively helping their parents with other household tasks such as washing dishes, drying clothes, or cooking when parents come home late from work.

If your child is proactive in doing these things, it reflects the success of parents in nurturing essential life skills and a sense of responsibility for shared family obligations.

Honesty and High Sense of Responsibility

Children are often curious and want to explore everything around them, and sometimes they don’t fully realize the consequences of their actions. When they know how to consciously admit mistakes and apologize sincerely without blaming others, it shows that they have been educated about the value of honesty. This also shows that they have learned to take responsibility for their actions.

Parents should not get angry or punish if children are too scared to admit their mistakes. Instead, gently encourage them to boldly admit their mistakes. Explain to the child the consequences of wrong actions and how it feels regretful to conceal mistakes.

Through patient and loving education like this, children will learn to think before acting, know how to behave appropriately with others, and avoid causing harm to others. Children nurtured with a sense of responsibility from a young age will develop into adults with a high sense of responsibility in the future.

A child who admits mistakes and apologizes sincerely without blaming others shows true honesty.

Children Are Grateful

In a certain village in China, an elderly couple devoted their whole lives to work hard to raise their only son, while also sacrificing for him to study at a prestigious school. However, after the young man started working, he forgot to take care of and financially support his parents in the hometown.

When getting married, he asked his parents for a large amount of money, up to 100,000 RMB, to use as a deposit to buy a house in the city. However, how can the elderly parents immediately provide such a large amount of money? In the end, not only did he not inform them, but he also did not invite them to his wedding.

What happened that the parents sacrificed everything but could not teach their children gratitude? Perhaps the problem lies in the fact that when parents provide everything without limits and without requiring anything in return, over time, children may consider their parents’ sacrifices as something natural and not feel the need to be grateful.

Therefore, to not raise a child who is not aware of gratitude, parents should not do too much for their children, even sacrificing everything. Instead, love your child within certain limits, teach them gratitude and giving, as well as understand their own responsibilities.

A grateful child does not only feel remorse when doing something wrong to their parents but is always willing to help and take care of their parents when they need it. When parents face difficulties, they are not hesitant to spend time and effort to bring joy and comfort to their parents. Some say that nurturing a grateful child is the greatest spiritual wealth a family can have.

Frequently asked questions

Discipline and politeness are essential values that parents should instill in their children from a young age. Teaching children proper behavior and social skills will help them throughout their lives. Parents should guide their children to greet adults politely, maintain order in public places, and perform household chores. It is important to stimulate self-motivation and joy in obeying discipline, rather than relying solely on punishment. By nurturing good habits and manners, parents are setting their children up for success in the future.

Arguing should not be seen as a negative behavior in children. According to a study by the University of Virginia, USA, children who challenge their parents’ views tend to develop good problem-solving skills and cope better with pressure as they grow up. Parents should not get angry when their children disagree but instead guide them to express their views politely and appropriately. Teaching children to argue in a gentle and civilized manner will help them become more confident, decisive, and strong individuals.

Parents can encourage their children to work within their abilities and take initiative. Some children may hesitate to tidy their rooms or fold clothes, waiting for their parents to do it for them. Teaching children to be proactive in completing tasks and helping with household chores instills a sense of responsibility and essential life skills. Parents should also educate their children about honesty and taking responsibility for their actions. By encouraging their children to admit mistakes and apologize sincerely, parents can foster a sense of honesty and accountability.

Teaching children about gratitude is essential to ensure they don’t take their parents’ sacrifices for granted. In a story from China, a couple devoted their lives to raising their son and sacrificing for his education, only for him to forget about them once he started working. To avoid this, parents should set limits and teach their children about gratitude and giving back. A grateful child will not only feel remorse for their mistakes but also be willing to help and care for their parents unconditionally.
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