The birth timing marks a significant milestone for a child. It’s not about an auspicious day, month, or hour aligned with Feng Shui; it’s about choosing the right moment when parents are fully prepared. Some babies are abandoned because they were born at the wrong time, and some are born into disadvantage and are not adequately cared for. They may have to live with their grandparents more than their parents because the parents weren’t ready. Although the grandparents love them, the child’s psychology when living with their parents is different from living with their grandparents. Therefore, before having a child, you should know that the timing of their birth, when they can receive love and experience a beautiful childhood, is crucial for their psychological, mental, and cognitive development.
When parents are ready to welcome their child
Not everyone is ready to become a parent, even if they are of age or married. They may have career plans or personal interests that take precedence. So, if you’re not ready, pay attention to birth control to avoid an unplanned pregnancy.
The arrival of a baby can turn your life upside down, and if you’re not prepared, you may struggle to adapt, leading to marital conflicts. You may also find it challenging to cope with unexpected situations regarding your child’s well-being and raising them reasonably. Some parents may experience mental health issues, feeling that their parental journey is interrupted by the child’s birth. This situation is detrimental to both the parents and the child, leading to exhaustion and inadequate care for the baby.
When parents love each other, and the child is a manifestation of their love
A daughter should never be the reason for her parents to stay together or a band-aid for their conflicts. Children should be the product of love and the culmination of sexual intimacy.
Don’t let your child be born in a moment when you’re desperately trying to hold on to each other. The child shouldn’t become the solution to your marital problems. It’s risky because, while some people may love each other more responsibly after having a baby, others may continue their marriage only because of an accidental pregnancy. Children born in these circumstances don’t experience complete happiness, and their existence becomes a duty to keep their parents together. This situation is unfair to the child, and the parents don’t find joy in it, only resignation.
Moreover, a creation born out of love is always more beautiful than one born out of a mistake, as life’s laws dictate. Children conceived in their parents’ love are already sacred and worthy of pride during their formation.
When parents are financially and mentally prepared to handle their economic situation
Raising a child requires money, and many couples argue about the expenses that come with having a baby. Some people have money, but they still struggle to adapt to the financial demands of parenthood because they lack the mental fortitude to handle their finances maturely. Therefore, in addition to having a basic economic foundation for your child’s birth, you need to be psychologically resilient regarding your finances. This means that some parents may have more money than you, but for them, it’s still not enough, or they may expect to raise their child with more financial resources than they can realistically earn. This can also cause significant disruptions. So, while you should aim for financial stability, providing a basic surplus to welcome your child, you also need to be mentally resilient within your financial means.
When your child is sick or in need of basic necessities, and you can’t provide for them, it’s a tremendous misfortune. Marriage already involves many expenses, and having a child adds to them. Money is a practical concern in raising children, and mental resilience in dealing with financial difficulties is equally important.
You need to prepare financially and develop a resilient mindset. When spending money on your child, facing challenges, or dealing with poverty, you must know how to keep your family together and raise your child healthily. Many people aren’t mentally prepared, so they argue when faced with difficulties, send their children to live with their grandparents, or work multiple jobs to make ends meet. By the time they return, their child has grown, and their relationship with them has changed, which is very unfortunate as the child misses out on parental love and a foundation of affection. So, prepare financially and mentally; even if you’re struggling financially, your family can still be happy and loving.
When both parents are in good health
Parental health directly impacts their child’s physical health. A baby born with a robust physique is lucky to grow up healthy. Therefore, parents should be healthy when trying to conceive. If you have health issues, adopt a healthy lifestyle, exercise, and seek treatment to stabilize your health before pregnancy or fertilization.
The ideal time to conceive is when both parents are healthy, sober, free from stimulants, and not in a toxic environment. Raising a child isn’t just about providing financially; it’s also about having the energy to play with them, endure sleepless nights, answer their endless questions, and keep up with their demands.
To maintain good health, adopt a healthy lifestyle and exercise. Also, consider your age, as reproductive health declines with age, increasing the risk to the child. Very young parents may also be a disadvantage, as they may not have fully matured psychologically or physically. A significant age gap between parents and children can hinder the parenting process, as energetic and active children may outpace their parents’ energy levels. So, plan your pregnancy for when your health is at its best.
When there are grandparents or relatives who can help
While parents are the primary caregivers, having a support system when raising a child is crucial, especially if you’re a first-time parent. Try to have a baby when your parents are still healthy and can help you. Learn to ask for help from those around you, and live a life where you can receive support. Grandparents and relatives are invaluable assets for young couples, and their presence can positively influence the child’s perception of love. Additionally, when grandparents are healthy, they can help care for the baby, reducing the burden on the parents. If the grandparents are frail, the parents may have to care for both their child and aging parents, which can be challenging.
Not everyone can meet all five criteria simultaneously. However, you can balance these factors to determine the best time to have a child and ensure the most favorable conditions.