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“The Things You Should Never Let Your Child Tell Outsiders: Every Parent Needs to Know”

"Children are often carefree and open about sharing their thoughts and experiences, but this can sometimes lead to them divulging sensitive information that could put their family at risk. As parents, it's important to educate your children on the potential dangers of sharing certain details with others."

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31 August, 2025

It’s natural for parents to smile at their child’s innocent tales shared with strangers: “My parents argue a lot!” or “We have a safe at home!”. But how many of us realize the potential dangers lurking in these simple confessions?

We often teach our children to be polite, to excel in their studies, and to be sociable, but we may overlook a crucial life skill: maintaining privacy for themselves and their families. Not because there’s anything shameful to hide, but because some things are better left unsaid, especially to outsiders, strangers, or even acquaintances who haven’t earned our trust yet.

When Innocence Becomes a Vulnerability

A child raised in a loving environment often assumes that everyone around them is kind-hearted. While this belief is beautiful, it can also make them vulnerable to exploitation if not guided properly.

Children may not realize that sharing with a classmate about their parents’ upcoming business trip or a long-awaited family vacation could reach the wrong ears. A burglar doesn’t need to break in at night if they know your house will be empty for a week.

Similarly, when a child mentions to a new nanny that their parents usually come home late on Wednesday afternoons, leaving them home alone, they inadvertently reveal a golden window of opportunity for ill-intended individuals. All it takes is a moment of innocence.

Children often share information without considering the potential consequences.

Teaching Children to Keep Secrets Doesn’t Equate to Encouraging Lying

Some parents worry that teaching their children to keep secrets might lead them to become deceitful. However, these two concepts are distinct. Being truthful doesn’t mean divulging everything to anyone.

It’s essential to help children understand that some matters are family affairs and should only be shared within a safe circle. Just as they wouldn’t allow just anyone to enter their personal space, they need to learn to safeguard their “information doors” for themselves and their loved ones.

A child who knows how to decline inappropriate questions and assertively respond, “Let me ask my parents first,” is a child who is maturing and recognizing personal boundaries.

Knowing When and With Whom to Share

Of course, not everything needs to be kept secret. If a child experiences discomfort, abuse, or threats, they must know they have the right to speak up—but to the right people: their parents, teachers, or trusted adults chosen by their parents.

Parents should create a safe psychological space for their children, assuring them that they will be heard without judgment or reprimand. Otherwise, children might choose to remain silent, even about matters that desperately need to be voiced.

Regular conversations help children understand what information to keep private to protect themselves.

Engage in Frequent Conversations Rather Than Waiting for Issues to Arise

Teaching children to keep certain matters confidential isn’t a one-time lesson. It’s a journey that requires patience and repetition through everyday, intimate conversations.

For instance, when your child asks, “Why can’t I tell my friend your password?” instead of simply saying, “Because it’s not allowed,” explain that some things, like a key, are coveted by many, but not everyone should possess them. Giving them away can lead to trouble.

Or, when your child shares that a classmate boasts about having valuables or money at home, it’s an opportunity to gently discuss how keeping such information private would be much safer.

Growing Up with Knowledge and Self-Control

Teaching children to keep secrets the right way isn’t about making them suspicious or closed off. On the contrary, it empowers them with self-control, enabling them to distinguish between what should be shared and what needs to be guarded. Most importantly, they’ll learn to protect themselves even when you’re not by their side.

In conclusion, don’t assume that children don’t need to learn about information security. Their innocence and small stature make them particularly vulnerable if not guided early on. So, instead of solely focusing on academic excellence, teach them to cherish and protect valuable information—through your words, trust, and daily expressions of love.