Allowing Children These 3 Freedoms: How Moms Can Secure Their Child’s Future

To realize this, parenting is not just about imparting knowledge but also about creating an environment that encourages creativity and independent thinking. Parents should facilitate children’s participation in practical activities and allow them to experience and learn from daily challenges.

Allow Mistakes and Build Resilience

Think back to when your child was learning to walk. How many times did they fall? But at that time, as parents, we patiently encouraged and affirmed their efforts. When they took their first steps, we applauded and praised them.

As children grow older, we may lose some of that patience. When they don’t do well or face failure, we may unintentionally show our disappointment, sometimes through unthinking words or an unhappy look. These actions can undermine their confidence and make them feel ashamed or inadequate.

If we don’t pay attention to this, children may start to believe they’re not good enough, worry about not being perfect, and eventually miss out on opportunities because they’re afraid of making mistakes or failing.

Allow mistakes and build resilience.

What do children lack the most? It’s resilience.

Resilience not only helps children overcome failures but also lays the foundation for developing grit. A resilient child, with an open mindset, will embrace new challenges without feeling overly anxious or fearful. With a positive attitude, they can naturally break free from limiting thoughts, discover, and form optimal strategies to solve problems.

It’s essential to encourage children to accept failure as an integral part of the learning process. Parents should help children realize that each stumble teaches a valuable lesson. This helps them develop resilience, fosters a positive mindset, and enables them to grow into confident, independent individuals ready to face life’s challenges.

Allow Mischief and Creativity

In many people’s eyes, mischievous children are synonymous with troublemakers. In reality, mischief is a series of exploratory activities sparked by curiosity.

For example, a baby throws things within reach. They are conducting an experiment of sorts, discovering that hard objects make a sound when they hit the floor, while soft, spongy balls do not. Through these simple actions, children learn about the world around them, understanding gravity, sound, and the nature of objects.

Children enjoy taking things apart to grasp their essence and structure and how things work. This is not mere mischief; it’s a natural learning process. When a child disassembles a toy, they are exploring how the parts work together, thereby developing problem-solving skills and logical thinking.

Allow mischief and creativity.

We are in the age of artificial intelligence, and creative talents are increasingly in demand. However, creativity is not a single skill but a mindset that embraces challenges, dares to try, and thinks without the constraints of preconceived notions. It requires confidence and persistent perseverance.

Mischief allows a child to return to their true nature, positively encouraging them to do what they enjoy and continuously explore areas they want to learn about. When encouraged, children will feel free to express themselves, thereby developing their creativity and independent thinking skills.

In this process, they maximize their imagination, creativity, proactive thinking, and self-affirmation. These experiences will build their self-confidence and courage to face life’s challenges.

Allow Free Play and Develop True Strengths

According to a psychologist, children are more likely to discover their passions when allowed to play freely rather than enroll in classes based on assumed interests.

Play is as important as studying. Play is not goal-oriented. Children can play as they please, with more opportunities to discover their strengths and interests and learn to solve various problems creatively.

If every minute and second of their day is planned, they won’t have time to think for themselves or learn how to manage their time.

Usually, when a person feels they cannot control their life, they gradually lose self-confidence and become anxious and confused.

Allow children to play freely.

To raise a truly capable child, the psychologist’s advice is that parents don’t need to invest too much time and effort. Instead, spend one or two hours a day playing with them, watching them play, showing an interest in their hobbies, and providing resources for exploration (books, documentaries, videos, outdoor trips, etc.). Be a guide rather than a controller.

A mother’s greatest success is not control but gradually letting go and allowing her child to take charge of their time, life, and destiny.

So, don’t exhaust yourself with parenting. Know when to let go and reduce control, as this will benefit your child’s development.