Neglectful or overly controlling parenting during childhood can lead to the development of undesirable traits and behaviors in children, such as selfishness, lack of respect for others, and disregard for social rules. This can make it difficult for children to adapt and succeed later in life.
Parents often instruct their children to be well-behaved, but these demands can have the opposite effect if children don’t understand why their parents want them to be well-behaved.
A mother shared on a parenting forum that she was once stumped by her daughter’s question, “What does it mean to be a good girl?”
In such cases, it’s important for parents to clearly explain the reasons behind their expectations for their children’s behavior.
## What Does it Mean to Be a Good Girl?
### Understanding Politeness
A well-mannered child with a sweet and curious disposition is always ready to explore the beauty of life. This attitude not only fosters a positive outlook but also contributes to the development of a strong and bright mindset.
So, how should children be raised? It’s important to instill politeness in children from a young age. Teach them to greet others, say “sorry,” and express gratitude with a sincere “thank you.” No matter who it is, whether it’s someone offering a tissue or a glass of water, children should be taught to always show their appreciation.
This helps children develop good habits, fosters their independence, teaches them to be polite, and shows them the value of reciprocity.
![Image depicting a child saying thank you](https://cdn.eva.vn/upload/3-2024/images/thintb/khi-tre-hoi-me-oi-em-be-ngoan-la-gi-nguoi-me-eq-tra-loi-dang-hoc-hoi-c—m—n-1723079148-544-width600height550.jpg)
### Responding Graciously
When someone gives something to your child, teach them to receive it with both hands. This gesture not only demonstrates politeness but also conveys gratitude and appreciation for the gift and the giver. It’s a wonderful way to cultivate a gracious attitude, and parents should start teaching this from an early age.
Emotionally intelligent children are loved wherever they go because they know how to express gratitude, show respect, and communicate with confidence and self-control.
Life is about constant progress, and a child’s learning journey is no exception. No matter the circumstances, parents should guide their children to develop good coping strategies for various situations. This includes teaching them polite behaviors that also reflect maturity and a strong mental foundation to face future challenges.
A sincere “thank you” accompanied by the act of receiving with both hands helps children express gratitude and respect for others. This lays the foundation for building a beautiful character and a positive attitude from an early age.
![Image of a child receiving a gift with both hands](https://cdn.eva.vn/upload/3-2024/images/thintb/khi-tre-hoi-me-oi-em-be-ngoan-la-gi-nguoi-me-eq-tra-loi-dang-hoc-hoi-hai-tay-1723079161-295-width600height516.jpg)
### Respecting Others
Teaching children not to interrupt others is a vital communication skill. Children need to learn to listen attentively, patiently, and respectfully when someone is speaking.
This helps develop their communication skills, teaches them to be polite, and fosters a sensitive and intelligent approach to social interactions.
Education is about respecting others, which is also equivalent to self-respect. This foundation is crucial for children to integrate well into the community and build healthy relationships.
![Image depicting a child listening attentively](https://cdn.eva.vn/upload/3-2024/images/thintb/khi-tre-hoi-me-oi-em-be-ngoan-la-gi-nguoi-me-eq-tra-loi-dang-hoc-hoi-ti—u-4-1723015963-466-width640height126.jpg)
### Awareness of Public Behavior
Children tend to get excited and enthusiastic in crowded places, which can lead to loud noises and disturbances for those around them.
When visiting public places like supermarkets, parks, or stores, children often express their excitement by shouting, laughing loudly, or running around uncontrollably. Such behaviors can create chaos and disturb the peace of others in the same space.
Teaching children to be mindful of their behavior in public is an important aspect of education and respect. They need to be guided on how to behave politely and consider the comfort of those sharing the same space.
This contributes to creating a pleasant public environment and helps children develop essential social skills, such as communication and emotional regulation.
![Image of a child behaving calmly in a public place](https://cdn.eva.vn/upload/3-2024/images/thintb/khi-tre-hoi-me-oi-em-be-ngoan-la-gi-nguoi-me-eq-tra-loi-dang-hoc-hoi—-n—o-1723079177-930-width600height513.jpg)
### Respecting Personal Space
Children are naturally curious and eager to explore and touch everything around them. However, if they are not taught appropriate behavior, they may inadvertently touch or take things that don’t belong to them.
Parents need to clearly explain to their children that they should not touch other people’s belongings without permission. Children should be taught to ask for consent before touching something, for example, by saying, “Can I touch your toy?”
This not only shows respect but also teaches children to ask for permission and receive consent before using someone else’s possessions.
Through consistent guidance and repetition, children will gradually develop a habit of respecting others’ property. Additionally, parents should lead by example, as children are more likely to follow their behavior in their daily lives.
![Image of a child asking permission before touching something](https://cdn.eva.vn/upload/3-2024/images/thintb/khi-tre-hoi-me-oi-em-be-ngoan-la-gi-nguoi-me-eq-tra-loi-dang-hoc-hoi——-v—t-1723079196-503-width600height543.jpg)
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The Sleeping Beauty Spell
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