Raising sons and daughters has differences due to gender and personality characteristics, upbringing, cultural, and social environment. Many people believe that girls do not need to be too ambitious, they do not need to make a lot of money but need a happy, peaceful life.
However, because of the mentality of pampering and worrying more about girls, many people tend to have a slightly stricter view of their daughters. In today’s era when girls are also passionate about careers and strive like boys, many people pay more attention to their daughters’ affairs and are more cautious. But if you see your child displaying this, don’t scold them right away:
Girls like to dress up and be tidy
For many girls, being elegant and grooming all the time is not a good thing. Parents, especially those with many daughters, always hope that their daughters are also talented and can earn money in the future to take care of their family’s financial matters. This is true, but don’t rush to blame or remind them. Choose your words wisely when you see your child neglecting their studies. Being too focused on appearance when still in school can distract them from paying attention to their studies and affect their exam results. When you see your child being too fussy, many parents think that this is a flaw that needs to be immediately fixed and sometimes they scold their child harshly.
But for women in any era, taking care of appearance is very important. One of the natural instincts of femininity is the love for elegance, sometimes it comes naturally without anyone teaching them. For example, when they were young, they wanted to choose their own clothes, when they got a little older, they were fascinated by watching their mother putting on makeup, or secretly took their mother’s makeup to try it on their face. Or sometimes, you will see your daughter, even at a very young age, looking at herself in the mirror.
Girly, looking in the mirror, and speaking in a melodramatic tone
Many girls are more elegant than boys, sometimes they cry while looking in the mirror to see how they look, and they don’t like it when someone criticizes them or speaks in a melodramatic tone. Don’t worry because sometimes it’s just the characteristic of children and the feminine trait of wanting to be glamorous to attract attention. If your child is not excessively doing so, consider it as a cute characteristic of femininity, different from boys.
Girls who like elegance and femininity, just as women sometimes need softness to “tame” men.
So when you see your daughter taking extra time to take care of her appearance and personality, try to stay calm. That is also a way for her to love herself and enhance her feminine characteristics.
Instead of rushing to scold or speak harshly in front of others, which can make your child feel ashamed, guide your child to find a balance between studying and taking care of appearance, to stand in the line between femininity and selfishness.
Women who know how to dress nicely and love beauty are also a great advantage in this era. The aesthetic mindset helps children develop in many environments. Moreover, it has a positive impact on their future life. Femininity is attractive, but inner strength is still the strongest support. When a girl can develop that, her future will be happy, confident, and independent.
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