The First Feng Shui of a Person: The Heart
1. Cultivate a kind heart
Hugo once said, “Kindness is a rare gem in history. A kind person is even better than a great person.”
Our ancestors also said, “Humanity is the essence of human beings.”
Ngụy Chinh once said, “Love leads to love, happiness leads to happiness.” In other words, if you love someone wholeheartedly, they will love you back; because when you do good, they will do good for you too. Therefore, kindness is a gift from God to human beings.
Doing good without expecting anything in return, by keeping a kind heart, is the greatest reward. Those who know how to live with compassion will be warm and happy.
Even doing evil doesn’t require punishment from others because an evil person always feels cold and doesn’t have any warmth themselves.
A person can be wealthy or unknown, but if they lose their kind heart, their life will lose its foundation. Plant seeds of kindness everywhere so that people can feel the beauty and happiness in their lives.
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2. Cultivate a tolerant heart
Tolerance means to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand their difficulties. At that moment, your heart will soften, and you will start to forgive the mistakes of others.
But tolerance also has its crucial point, blind tolerance is a weakness.
People who don’t understand tolerance will lose the respect of others, and those who tolerate blindly will lose their own dignity.
3. Cultivate a humble attitude
Humility is a kind of vision, understanding humility means seeing the world more broadly, knowing the tall mountains and deep waters, and not becoming arrogant because of one’s achievements.
Humility is a kind of strength, a humble heart is like a weed, it doesn’t mock the outside world or care about the laughter of the world, but quietly accumulates strength for itself.
Vương Dương Minh once said, “There are two serious diseases in life, laziness and arrogance.” Therefore, humility will never be harmed.
The Second Feng Shui of a Person: The Mouth
1. Don’t expose the flaws of others
A tree needs bark, and humans need dignity. No one lives without caring about dignity, and those who harm the dignity of others will harm their hearts.
If you fight with someone, don’t hit them in the face; if you criticize someone, don’t expose their flaws.
Our ancestors said, “A dragon has backward scales, touching them will make it angry.” Everyone has things they don’t want others to touch, and if they do, they’ll face the consequences.
If you make someone lose face, they will definitely find a way to get back at you. So, don’t talk about the flaws of someone with a hunchback, don’t mention the fatness in front of a fat person, and don’t talk about ugliness in front of someone “Dong Thi”.
People who can’t control their mouth will sow enmity everywhere, making the path narrower and more troublesome.
2. Don’t brag
In the country of Zhao, there was a scholar who liked to brag. He claimed to have seen Fu Xi, Nu Wa, Shen Nong, Xi Wangmu, Tu Hao, Niu, Chuan, Vu, Thang, Boyi, Daoji, and lived for thousands of years.
One day, the King of Zhao fell off his horse and was seriously injured. The doctor said that it would take over a thousand years of blood to heal, so the King of Zhao ordered the execution of the scholar to obtain his blood.
At that moment, the scholar became fearful and quickly clarified that he was bragging, but the king didn’t believe him and thought he was lying to save himself, so he killed him.
Many people like to brag when they have nothing to do, as if they can’t live comfortably without bragging. But once others believe in it, they will have to pay the price. Therefore, don’t brag without understanding the importance of the matter.
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3. Don’t speak meaningless words
Mạc Tử once responded to his student, Tử Cầm, “Is constant talking useful?”
It’s like a frog in a pond, croaking every day, getting a dry throat but nobody pays attention. But a rooster only crows two or three times at dawn, and when people hear the rooster crow, they know that dawn is coming, so everyone pays attention.
In life, deep understanding always welcomes people’s approval and respect, while trivial and meaningless talk makes people feel bored.
Practicality has proven that only by speaking meaningfully and accurately grasping the content of the story, can you create more attractiveness for yourself.
The Third Feng Shui of a Person: Behavior
1. Don’t take shortcuts
Of course, in life, there are always shortcuts, and people can achieve happiness quickly without much effort. But if you take too many shortcuts, you will lose the ability to climb the mountain. Because shortcuts are tricks, but climbing mountains is exercise.
In this world, there are more rugged paths than flat ones, and there are very few shortcuts that can be taken. Skyscrapers rise from the ground, big waves rise from the bottom of the sea, and only accumulations bit by bit can give you a solid and happy life.
If we are used to walking on rugged paths, sometimes taking shortcuts will be effective. But if we are used to taking shortcuts, and then face a rugged path, we will find that we no longer have the ability to confront difficulties, and at that time, there will be many complaints and life will quickly decline.
2. Don’t benefit yourself at the expense of others
There’s a saying, “Don’t see a small good deed and not do it, don’t see a small wrongdoing and do it.” Doing good will make your life better and better, while doing evil will lead to a downfall. Doing good is difficult, doing evil is easy.
No one is a fool, how you treat others is how they will treat you. You may think you’ve achieved something, but in reality, you have lost your own integrity. Late at night, your conscience may gnaw at you.
3. Don’t chase after small benefits
In this world, there is no free lunch, and the cake in the sky may not fall into your hands. Behind all the small benefits, there will be a greater price.
Always remember that not everything good will come to you. Not chasing after small benefits is a way of self-cultivation.
Ta Tong Duong said, “Don’t make money with those who like cheap things. Don’t seek advice from suspicious people.” Because by pursuing small benefits and losing people’s trust, you will lose more than you gain.
Sometimes, you should let others take a step forward, and over time, you will receive unexpected good things in return.