Some parents believe that they need to “treat softly” or else their sons will become tough with them, leading to ineffective education.
Raising boys requires different methods of education at different ages, establishing authority before the age of 12 and appearing weak after the age of 12.
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Before the age of 12, you need to be “firm” in education
Help children develop correct beliefs and thoughts, while strengthening their personal abilities.
Before the age of 12, the values, moral standards, and personal abilities of children are not yet stable and solid, so parents should educate their children more strictly, as long as there are principles and discipline, they should not spoil their children to develop correct beliefs.
For example, if a child wants to buy a toy for the wrong value, parents must adhere to their principles and say “no” to their children without compromising, yielding, or giving in.
But we also need to know that the child’s wrong behavior stems from undeveloped and imperfect factors such as the perception of right and wrong, rather than the child’s “bad” nature, so we must be tolerant, understanding, sympathetic, and caring for the child, and use educational methods that the child can accept to help them develop correct beliefs.
After the age of 12, you need to be “gentle” with the child
Respect the subjective thinking of the child and establish a deep emotional connection with the child.
When a child reaches the age of 12, they must face the most turbulent developmental period, the “adolescent period”.
At this time, children have unstable but strong self-consciousness, which they consider as a huge foundation of knowledge, personal ability, and strong self-esteem.
But they are also affected by physical development issues during the adolescent period, leading to some harsh words and actions.
The purpose of education is to help children grow up, so at this point, we should not be “firm” when dealing with children but should be “gentle”.
For example, when you object to a child’s actions, you can no longer directly point that out in front of them. Instead, you should choose to discuss and inquire, in this way, the child will feel “face-saving” and quietly accept their parents’ opinions.
In order to educate boys over the age of 12 well, you need to integrate into their circle, become their “friends”, avoid “imposing thoughts”, make the child feel respect and sincerity, and establish a deep emotional relationship with the child in order to effectively educate them.
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