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Raising Boys to Excel: Establish Dominance Before Age 12 and Appear Vulnerable After Age 12

Education has never been easy, so when it comes to raising a son, you need to know how to adapt educational policies according to each stage of your child's growth and use the most suitable educational methods to achieve the ideal results and truly benefit your child!

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28 February, 2024

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Some parents believe that they need to “treat softly” or else their sons will become tough with them, leading to ineffective education.

Raising boys requires different methods of education at different ages, establishing authority before the age of 12 and appearing weak after the age of 12.

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Before the age of 12, you need to be “firm” in education

Help children develop correct beliefs and thoughts, while strengthening their personal abilities.

Before the age of 12, the values, moral standards, and personal abilities of children are not yet stable and solid, so parents should educate their children more strictly, as long as there are principles and discipline, they should not spoil their children to develop correct beliefs.

For example, if a child wants to buy a toy for the wrong value, parents must adhere to their principles and say “no” to their children without compromising, yielding, or giving in.

But we also need to know that the child’s wrong behavior stems from undeveloped and imperfect factors such as the perception of right and wrong, rather than the child’s “bad” nature, so we must be tolerant, understanding, sympathetic, and caring for the child, and use educational methods that the child can accept to help them develop correct beliefs.

After the age of 12, you need to be “gentle” with the child

Respect the subjective thinking of the child and establish a deep emotional connection with the child.

When a child reaches the age of 12, they must face the most turbulent developmental period, the “adolescent period”.

At this time, children have unstable but strong self-consciousness, which they consider as a huge foundation of knowledge, personal ability, and strong self-esteem.

But they are also affected by physical development issues during the adolescent period, leading to some harsh words and actions.

The purpose of education is to help children grow up, so at this point, we should not be “firm” when dealing with children but should be “gentle”.

For example, when you object to a child’s actions, you can no longer directly point that out in front of them. Instead, you should choose to discuss and inquire, in this way, the child will feel “face-saving” and quietly accept their parents’ opinions.

In order to educate boys over the age of 12 well, you need to integrate into their circle, become their “friends”, avoid “imposing thoughts”, make the child feel respect and sincerity, and establish a deep emotional relationship with the child in order to effectively educate them.

Frequently asked questions

Before they turn 12, boys are still developing their values, moral standards, and personal abilities. By being firm and consistent in your parenting, you help them establish a solid foundation for their beliefs and thoughts. It’s important to set boundaries and not spoil them, as this will contribute to their overall growth and development.

While maintaining a firm stance, it’s crucial to show tolerance, understanding, sympathy, and care. Recognize that their wrong behavior often stems from immature factors like an underdeveloped sense of right and wrong. Use educational methods that they can accept to guide them toward developing correct beliefs and values.

As boys enter adolescence, their self-consciousness becomes stronger, and they face physical and emotional changes. Respect their emerging subjective thinking and give them the space to express themselves. Instead of being firm, opt for a gentler approach, discussing and inquiring rather than directly pointing out their mistakes. This helps maintain a positive relationship and guides them effectively.

To educate boys effectively after they turn 12, it’s important to integrate into their circle and become their friend. Avoid imposing your thoughts and instead, focus on building a deep emotional connection. Earn their respect and sincerity, and they will be more receptive to your guidance and influence.