While you may not build a house, you must raise a child
With a child, an eight-year-old is almost 80% complete in terms of personality, psychology, and basic outlook on life. So, don’t let your child’s childhood lack the companionship of their parents.
Many people, myself included, were shocked to learn this perspective. In reality, money can be earned later, and clothes for the child can be bought later, but never neglect your child’s childhood by not being present.
If you don’t spend enough time with your child, not expressing your love enough for them to feel it, and instead immersing yourself in your work and delegating childcare to grandparents or nannies, time will pass, and you won’t be able to go back and make up for past mistakes.
I love this perspective on raising children: “If you can’t build a house yet, that’s fine. What’s more important is building a person. Building a person saves you money on several houses, and you’ll only see the results later.”
Children are lovable, but they are also pitiful
Many people think that children bring a sense of trouble. However, this trouble is not necessarily caused by them. Parents give birth to children, but children cannot just “jump” into our lives.
As parents and adults, we should know what’s important and prioritize accordingly. We also decide how much time to spend with our children. They don’t know that mom will come home after work or that dad will play with them after finishing his tasks.
Adults have a lot to think about, many jobs to do, and many relationships to maintain. But for children, parents are their whole world.
There are many reasons why parents hit their children, seeing it as a correct and strict way of education. Many parents believe that “spare the rod, spoil the child,” and that children will only learn if they are hit hard…
Children are adorable, but they are also very pitiful. They don’t know how to protect themselves, and while “naughty” children are punished, adults who misbehave often face no consequences.
Infants under one year old are considered angels, but once they turn one, they are seen as troublemakers in the house. The reason is that one-year-olds have gained awareness but lack the vocabulary to express themselves.
As the saying goes, “Look at the tree to fix the ground, look at the child to fix yourself.” Children reflect their parents’ personalities. So, parents should behave appropriately for their children to learn from them.
Spend time with your children, show them care and attention, and play with them. Let them feel loved and experience a true childhood.
“3 Types of Parenting Styles That May Lead to Unfilial Children: A Warning for Families”
Many parents complain that their children do not reciprocate their love, and it is often due to a smothering form of affection. This overbearing approach can be counterproductive, pushing children away instead of fostering a healthy, loving relationship. It is essential for parents to understand that while their love for their children may be overwhelming, it must be expressed in a manner that allows their children to thrive and develop their own sense of self. A delicate balance must be struck between providing unconditional love and giving children the space to grow and explore their independence.