Khôi Nguyên, also known as Trê Phi, is the son of NSND Hồng Vân and her first husband. He gained attention in 2021 when he became the first person to be proudly accepted as a son-in-law by Quyền Linh on a TV show. The two artists enthusiastically played matchmakers for Trê Phi and Lọ Lem, and the couple was well-received by the audience despite their young age.
At the age of 13-14, NSND Hồng Vân sent her son to the US for education, hoping that he would absorb the best that the developed country has to offer. And indeed, Trê Phi did not disappoint.
Hồng Vân’s son resembled her a lot when he was little.
Trê Phi is a successful director in the US.
After graduating from two prestigious universities in the US, he became a young director with multiple award-winning films to his name. Following his success abroad, he returned to Vietnam in mid-2023 and took over the family business as Deputy Director of the Hồng Vân Drama Stage in Ho Chi Minh City at the age of 27.
Not only is he talented and successful, but he also has an impressive physique, standing at 1.83m tall with a charming smile. He also has a talent for playing music and singing cover songs…
Regarding his decision to study abroad and pursue his current career path, Khôi Nguyên shared that it was his passion, not his mother’s influence, that led him down this road. “My parents never forced me to study anything, but I felt that the arts were in my blood since I was little, whether it was following my mother to the theater or watching my father’s works. I liked everything related to art, from singing to acting. As a child, we would watch a movie as a family after my mother returned from a performance. That’s how I developed a love for films. My decision to study cinema was also partly influenced by my father,” he said.
Khôi Nguyên has a good relationship with his stepfather, artist Lê Tuấn Anh, Hồng Vân’s current husband. Hồng Vân happily shared: “Both father and son have similar personalities. Since he was little, Tuấn Anh has taken good care of and loved Trê Phi. He spoils him a lot. There has never been any argument or loud disagreement between the two.”
Indeed, any parent would be proud of what Trê Phi has achieved. However, not every child succeeds, even with a “rosy path” laid out by their parents or with all their conditions met.
Parents should understand that a child’s success is not only measured by their achievements but also by their moral character, their contribution to society, and their filial piety…
Therefore, when it comes to parenting, it is crucial to remember not to rush your child towards grand achievements but to give them the time and space to express themselves.
Experiencing failure leads to growth
It is essential to cultivate a child’s capacity for disappointment. Resilience in the face of disappointment is built not through intelligence but through physical and mental strength.
Today’s children often struggle with challenges because parents intervene too much in their lives, depriving them of the opportunity to solve problems independently.
Developing patience and resilience should start from a young age. Parents can create situations where children can safely experience disappointment and learn to solve small problems on their own.
For instance, if your child is playing a sport like soccer and their team loses, they can learn to accept defeat, analyze the reasons, and find ways to improve for the next game.
Without these skills, children may develop behavioral or psychological issues as they grow up. Problems such as skipping school, lying, internet addiction, defiance, or even extreme actions often stem from a lack of resilience in early development.
In the early years, children need to experience a range of emotions, including disappointment, to understand that life is not always easy.
It’s a blessing when your child knows how to manage their emotions
Before the age of two, a child’s language skills are not fully developed, so they often cry to express their needs or discomfort.
However, by the age of three to five, their crying becomes more purposeful. For example, if your child wants a new toy and you don’t buy it right away, they may cry or throw a tantrum…
Therefore, at this stage, parents should teach their children how to regulate their emotions and refrain from displaying disappointment in public. If your child frequently reacts inappropriately, affecting those around them, consider the following three steps.
Step 1: Take your child straight home without scolding or hitting them, and let them cry it out.
Step 2: Once home, take your child to their bedroom or a private space to talk.
Step 3: Remember the four “don’ts”
– Don’t shout or scold; instead, establish good family education concepts.
– Don’t hit your child.
– Don’t lecture when your child is crying, as anything you say will sound like noise to them.
– Don’t walk away; stay by their side to help them calm down.
By firmly saying “no” to unreasonable demands, you teach your child about boundaries and what is acceptable and what is not. All parents love and want to give their children the best, but love also needs principles.
Note: Encourage open communication and create a calm environment for your child to express their thoughts and feelings.
It’s a blessing when your child can resist temptation
A specialist once said: “We have one brain, but within it, we have two selves: one that is impulsive and greedy, and another that is restrained, long-term, and far-sighted.” When children are young, they often need their parents’ help to resist temptation and control their behavior.
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However, as they grow up, they need to learn to manage and control their “impulsive self” during the maturation process.
Psychologists believe that some “small temptations” can be used to train a child’s self-control. These temptations help them recognize and confront immediate desires, fostering patience and long-term planning. Teaching children how to handle these temptations early on will equip them with the necessary skills to face more complex challenges in the future.
So, what can parents do to support their children in this process? For example, if your child loves a particular snack, create an exciting situation where they will be motivated to wait. Tell them that this snack is for the next three days, and if they finish it early, they will have to wait until the fourth day for more. This situation teaches them about planning and patience.
If they can’t resist and eat the snack before the fourth day, they will experience discomfort and the feeling of missing out. This can help them appreciate the value of what they have and understand that good things take time. Moreover, they will feel proud of themselves for their self-control.
If children are not taught self-control, they may lack patience and encounter problems during adolescence. Therefore, teaching them how to handle temptations at an early age is essential for building confidence, perseverance, and the ability to overcome future challenges.
Learning to endure and not be selfish
Many people complain that today’s children are more selfish, but they often overlook the fact that this trait may stem from overindulgence. Overindulgence leads to a lack of independence, an inability to experience deprivation or waiting, and a difficulty in understanding the value of sharing and compassion.
Psychologists believe that children can be corrected at a young age, around five years old. Therefore, parents should set rules, such as waiting for their turn to eat or participating in family activities where they can contribute and learn. Teaching children about sharing and empathy is not just about words but also about daily actions.
One effective way to educate children is through real-life situations. For example, if your child is not allowed to eat before the adults start, they learn about patience and respect.
Moreover, encouraging children to engage in volunteer work or helping others is an excellent way to nurture a sense of humanity and empathy. These experiences will help them realize that the world does not revolve around them and that there are people who need care and support.
