No discrimination between right and wrong, letting children bear the consequences even when they are not at fault
If parents make mistakes, apologize to their children in a timely manner, discipline them appropriately and children will grow up in a positive direction;
If parents mix right and wrong, feel inferior and often make their children suffer the consequences of their own mistakes, then their children may sow seeds of resentment towards their parents;
For example, some parents in a family believe that adults can criticize children, regardless of right or wrong, children must not resist, even if they have their own opinions and prejudices;
If someone humiliates or oppresses their children in public, they will not think that person is at fault, but that their child is at fault.
If the children argue with family members and the parents do not stand up for their justice, but instead blame the children and punish them, then the children will feel hurt and feel that they are not loved by their parents, how can they willingly be dutiful to themselves?
Release anger and dissatisfaction in life onto children
Some parents are born not to make their children happy, but to make their children suffer with them. They will casually vent their resentment, dissatisfaction with life onto innocent children.
Let the children be trembling and full of anxiety in a distorted and lacking affectionate family atmosphere since they were young.
Of course, parents also have their own helplessness, what they say is not necessarily intentional, but it leaves a lingering shadow on the children.
Children who are treated this way for a long time will often be deceived by some heartless people to win their trust, and when they grow up they will have an unhappy life.
Therefore, if you truly love your children, please stop the “verbal violence” and give them warmth and care.
Don’t let innocent children silently endure the anger, frenzy, and accusations of yourself.
If not, in the last years of your life, you will have to accept a certain degree of “cruelty” from your children.
No matter what the child thinks, impose your will on them
Many parents do not see their children as independent individuals, but completely as “copies”, their personal belongings that can be manipulated and controlled at will.
They say they love their children and everything is for their children’s benefit, but they ignore their children’s opinions and force their children to follow their own will, making them overwhelmed.
If the child has any objections, the parents will rebuke them morally, or criticize them harshly, in short, they refuse to listen to their child’s feelings and force the child to obey their words.
Families like this are not uncommon in life.
Eventually, the freedom of children will be restricted, they will have a very deficient life, lose enthusiasm for life, blame their parents and families will have disputes, blame themselves and feel innocent.
Consider your children as your friends, communicate calmly with them and listen to their opinions.
I believe that when you do this, your children will also feel your remorse and true love for them, and the family will stand strong, protect each other and remain loyal to each other.
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