According to the ancients, there are rituals and etiquette. Here, the term “ritual” means being a guest and “etiquette” means self-control. Therefore, if you are a guest, you should not give these 3 items. The ancients valued rituals and etiquette and always advised their descendants to maintain traditions in order to maintain good relationships, be respected, avoid misunderstandings, and ensure peace.
To ensure a good relationship and gain respect from others, when visiting as a guest, do not come empty-handed. However, when choosing a gift to bring as a guest, you must be careful to avoid causing conflicts, misunderstandings, cracks, or bringing bad luck to the recipient’s home and yourself.
Therefore, according to the ancients, you should avoid the following 3 items when choosing gifts:
Do not give used items
According to the ancients, gifts should be cherished and respected, reflecting the humble attitude of the giver. Therefore, do not give used items, as they imply giving leftovers, excess items, or unwanted items. Giving used items can bring bad luck to the recipient and create a sense of discomfort.
Used items, although they may still be useful and liked by you, can be misunderstood when given as gifts, leading to strained relationships and the recipient feeling undervalued. This can lead to animosity, disruptions in cooperation and business, loss of fortune, and damage to reputation.
Therefore, absolutely refrain from giving used items as gifts. If you are close, you can share with each other, and if someone asks for something you can provide, do so without giving it as a gift. The gift you bring as a guest should be new and unused.
The recipient may think that if you give them used items, you don’t respect them, and they may begin to doubt and distance themselves. Therefore, be cautious in choosing gifts to maintain long-lasting relationships.
Bringing used items to their home can also bring bad luck to their family, causing Feng Shui problems and becoming a source of bad luck for both the recipient and yourself. Becoming a source of bad luck for others will result in the depletion of your own wealth and prevent good things from happening.
A gift with excessive value
Not all valuable gifts are appreciated. You must consider the value of the gift in relation to the relationship and not turn the gift into a debt. A meaningful gift represents the bond and care between both parties, creating more joy and stronger connections. However, if you bring a gift with excessive value, it may raise suspicion or reluctance. If the gift is too valuable, the recipient may refuse it or accept it with worry, as they may not know the hidden intentions or be afraid of owing a debt. An expensive gift may raise concerns about future obligations, and even have legal consequences.
Furthermore, an expensive gift can create a sense of indebtedness between both parties, turning it from a blessing into a burden. Therefore, do not assume that a high-value gift will win people over. A truly meaningful gift should not burden either party with debts; it should bring joy.
Therefore, if you bring a gift with excessive value, it can turn a gentle and beautiful relationship into a burden and create obstacles in building a connection between both parties. If it is a business relationship, they will find ways to avoid you, leading to a decline in fortune and luck.
Avoid superstitious items
The ancients advised against giving clocks for celebrations, umbrellas for weddings, and pears for visits. In Chinese, the word for clock, “tòng chung” (送 终), means sending off the deceased; the word for umbrella, “sǎn” (伞), means dispersing; and the word for pear, “lí” (梨), carries the connotation of cutting, tearing, and parting. These meanings can bring bad luck and ruin the good Feng Shui that they have established.
Therefore, in life, when visiting as a guest, especially when visiting the home of a business partner to seize opportunities, maintain lucky relationships, if you do not pay attention to these things, it may bring trouble, affect relationships, cause a decline in fortune, and make relationships suspicious and no longer friendly.
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