Experts say that if a mother can endure these 3 points when educating her child, she is basically a successful mother, and her children will grow up happy.
Control emotions to avoid using negative language with children
A man once shared that when he was young, he was afraid of being scolded by his mother because he did poorly on a test. But when he brought the test back for his mother to see, she only said, “Your work is not good, but your handwriting has improved a lot.” Thanks to his mother’s words, he no longer felt afraid and had more motivation for the next test. Even when he grew up, he always felt grateful to his mother for her encouraging words.
It can be said that language has a special destructive power. Harsh words can even ruin family harmony. In reality, many women cannot control their words and end up hurting their children due to pressure in various aspects of life.
Many people, when angry, scold their children out of frustration or say hurtful words to make their children fix their flaws. However, children who are educated through cursing and physical punishment often find it difficult to develop their overall mental, emotional, and intellectual abilities. It makes the child live with a sense of inferiority because from a young age, they have been labeled as “stupid,” “unruly,” “bad.”
Therefore, wise mothers will limit negative words with their children and teach them how to express emotions properly.
Learn to be “lazy.”
There is a book by a Chinese author called “Lazy mothers are better than good mothers” that says: “The highest state of being a mother is learning to be lazy.” According to the author, mothers who are too emotional and too loving towards their husbands and children tend to become overwhelmed and do everything for their husbands and children. This unintentionally makes their husbands and children selfish, lazy, and ungrateful.
A good mother will use reason to let go of household chores reasonably. This can stimulate the initiative of other family members.
Endure anger to avoid hitting children
Not everyone is good at controlling their emotions when educating their children. When angry, many people tend to use harsh words or even physically punish their children. If a child has a strong personality, they will resist their parents in every possible way, affecting the physical and mental well-being of the child as well as the family relationship.
That is why when educating their children, parents must control their anger. Stay calm, make an assessment, and solve the problem together with the child.
No child can avoid making mistakes during their growth process. When they are still young and do not truly understand right from wrong, mistakes can happen unintentionally. If a child accidentally makes a mistake and their parents quickly scold them, the child will feel uncomfortable and wronged.
Over time, children who are constantly being punished by their parents for their mistakes will develop a sense of insecurity and self-consciousness. As they grow up, these children tend to be timid and hesitant to do anything because they are afraid of being scolded by their parents if they make a mistake. Children who have such fear will find it difficult to do anything and face obstacles in integrating into society.
Mothers’ Need for Awareness of Dual Activity of Breastfeeding and Watching TV
In the contemporary world, in which technology pervades our lives, some mothers tend to soothe their babies through nursing while simultaneously watching television. Although this practice may not appear to affect the infant, studies show that it can in fact have dire repercussions on the baby’s well-being, both in terms of physical health and mental growth. In this article, we will look at the possible reasons for this activity and its potential outcomes.