1. Mother scolds and gets angry with the child
In most cases, parents scold their children because they have made mistakes. At this time, the purpose of parents is to make the child realize the mistake and stop repeating it.
However, when the frequency of scolding and criticism increases, the frequency of the child’s mistakes also increases. This is because when parents scold their children with negative and even cruel words, the child’s mind will not correct the mistake, but only feel sad and disappointed.
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One or two times will not cause much harm, but when the child’s brain receives them for a long time, the child’s mental strength will gradually weaken. Sometimes parents scold their children to vent their worries, they are really worried about their children, but what they say is not teaching advice but “stabbing” that makes the child more hurt.
For children, parents are their closest relatives. No matter how old the child is, they always want affirmation from their parents. The scolding and heavy criticism of parents always have a negative impact on children.
According to Professor Stapen of the UK Education Association, scolding children, especially repeated criticism, will cause more serious harm than physical punishment. Children who grow up in the bullying of their families will not trust others and do not value themselves. If this continues, children will encounter psychological problems, and more seriously, it can lead to autism.
2. Mother is impatient to listen to the child
Mothers should know that young children are independent individuals. Although they are children, they still have the right to express their thoughts and desires.
There are many parents who believe that young children are still young, inexperienced, and prone to mistakes… so they deprive their children of the right to express themselves, and they have no patience to sit down and listen to their children. For example, if your child doesn’t want to study dance, but you feel that your daughter looks beautiful when she dances, you force your child to study by force.
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You always find excuses to ignore your child’s desires, ignore your child’s confidences. In this way, in the long run, the gap between you and your child will only grow larger, and eventually the child will not want to express his thoughts to you.
3. Mother covers and controls the child everywhere
Because of their love and preciousness for their children, they are afraid that their children will be hurt even a little. Therefore, they protect their children more. Many mothers are always afraid of their children encountering dangers outside, so they always protect their children everywhere.
However, the world today is very complex and full of dangers, these children when they grow up and step into life will have difficulties in living independently because they have always had their mothers protect them. Overprotecting a child may seem smooth and comfortable, but the result is that they become weak, introverted, timid, and incompetent.
Many mothers want to control their children in all aspects. This type of mother always considers obedience as a criterion for evaluating the quality of the child. In the eyes of many mothers, if the child does not follow their orientation and plans, and expresses personal thoughts, makes personal decisions, it is “opposing, rebellious”. Even when the child grows up, the mother still controls everything, making the child become a person without independent thinking.
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Not a few mothers have selfish behaviors, that is, they impose their unfulfilled desires on their children. Many parents whose careers have not been successful have devoted their efforts and expectations to their children. Because they want their children to develop according to their own thoughts, the child’s emotions are all ignored.
4. Mother is too lenient
The motto of being lenient is “Don’t worry, be happy”. Mothers do not set limits, regulations, rules… for their children. These mothers let their children do what they want, not restrict them, so that children can develop naturally, live happily and healthily.
But life is complicated and there are many regulations not only for families but also for society. So a child who is not put in a framework from an early age until going out into society will encounter difficulties and cause a lot of trouble…
5. Mother does everything for the child
Always staying up late and getting up early to take care of the child. Early in the morning, go to the market, cook, take the child to school, do homework after school, and wash clothes until midnight.
Hardworking and simple, this is a characteristic often seen in East Asian women and is also the quality of a good wife and mother.
However, doing everything for your child only makes them feel more bored and self-conscious. It makes them have negative feelings about money. These disadvantages will far outweigh the benefits as the child grows up.
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