When parents give birth, the first thing they hope for is that their child will be healthy. After that, they hope for their child to live in peace, grow up successful, happy, and have a fulfilling married life. To ensure their child’s fortunate and happy life, many parents work hard to earn money and invest in their child. But there is one important thing that many people forget, which is the love and affection of parents.
Many people think that providing their child with the best education and material things is the most important. However, one often overlooked fact is that a child first needs a loving family, a good family environment that is warm and proud, where the child feels happy and content. As the saying goes, when the father loves, the mother is at peace, and when the mother is at peace, the child is at peace. A happy and harmonious relationship between parents is the key to raising children who are free, healthy, and happy.
When parents are unhappy and have imbalanced thoughts, it greatly affects their children. The love of parents, family discipline, and the warmth and happiness within the family are the best feng shui for the lives of children. It is the cradle of happiness that helps children to develop and be proud. A happy child will be healthy, intelligent, and confident. On the other hand, a child who has money but constantly hears criticism and nagging from their parents will feel suffocated, stressed, and uncomfortable.
Therefore, the best feng shui in the family is laughter and the love of parents. When couples love and cherish each other, they create a harmonious family atmosphere, which is the best for the growth of their children.
To achieve this, parents should take note of the following:
Learn to Accept Each Other
Every couple will have times when they are dissatisfied with each other, there will be differences and different habits and preferences. But no one is exactly the same in this world. Therefore, learning to accept each other is more important than demanding changes according to one’s own way. In the process of dating and becoming life partners, what makes us better is going through conflicts to understand each other. More importantly, couples need to learn to accept each other. For example, the husband likes to watch football and the wife likes to watch idol shows, they may argue over the remote control, fight over watching their respective shows at the same time, and neither is willing to compromise. Gradually, the marriage becomes a battlefield, with one side wanting to dominate and make the other obey their orders.
Every couple should have principles in how they treat each other to avoid conflicts. If you force someone to change to be like you, it is being domineering. Have common principles to build a family and accept each other within limits. Couples should be tolerant of each other. Respect is easily lost when living together, but once respect is lost, people tend to cross limits.
Therefore, learning to gradually accept each other is a very important factor in reducing conflicts within the family, in order to respect and love each other more.
Learn to Listen
Many relationships break down primarily because people do not listen to each other, they want to interrupt before the other person finishes speaking, they argue without even listening, they don’t listen and don’t understand. The wife wants to share about the dress she just bought or her new hairstyle, but the husband just says “hmm” or “looks nice” without even looking up, which immediately shuts down communication between the two. This diminishes the emotions of both parties. And that is why many people seek to share with someone outside the family. Listening is the first step to effective communication… It is very difficult for couples who do not listen to each other carefully to become parents who know how to listen to their children.
Therefore, parents need to listen to each other to understand each other, as understanding leads to love. Moreover, learning to listen is also a way for parents to listen to their children. Listening to your child is a way to help them develop better, preventing them from having self-doubt and providing emotional support.
Continuous Development
Couples who learn together and improve together will make their family life better. Furthermore, learning together allows husbands and wives to shorten the distance in their marriage, creating better empathy and avoiding creating distance, which helps make the marriage more sustainable. If you want to maintain the attraction and charm between husband and wife, while also creating a progressive and positive environment for children within the family, parents need to learn to continue to grow in life and work.
Continuous learning to create a happier marriage is a way to build a happy family. Continuous learning is also a way for you to provide your children with good things, to understand their generation, to bridge the generation gap, and to integrate with them.