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The Harmful Habit of Many Parents that Kills Children’s Talents, Turning Them into Insecure and Unfulfilled Individuals

If you have the following habits, make sure to correct them right away so as not to become a "toxic" parent to your children.

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9 February, 2024

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Every parent wants their child to succeed and achieve the best. However, many parents have incorrect or inadequate methods due to lack of knowledge and act inappropriately. If you have any of the following actions, please give them up:

Criticizing your child in front of others

Parents sometimes lack patience, so they are ready to criticize and scold their child in front of others when they make mistakes. This criticism is sometimes only for the parents themselves, not for the good of the child. This criticism makes the child become insecure, timid, and feel guilty every time they meet someone. At around 2 years old, children can already distinguish between “mine” and “someone else’s”, understand when adults are talking about them or not, and care about the evaluation of adults about themselves. Criticizing the child in this way does not teach them anything but only makes the child more self-conscious and mentally dark. Sometimes the child will ignore the words of the parents.

Comparing your child to others

Each person is a unique individual, and so are you and your child. Therefore, it is best not to compare your child to other children, just as you don’t want to be compared to others. Comparison does not bring progress but only makes the child more self-conscious and hesitant to communicate. In life, encourage and focus on the strengths of the child, and only fix what needs to be improved. Comparing puts pressure on the child and makes them more self-conscious, thinking that they are not as good as the other child. On the other hand, if there is no comparison, the child will focus all their energy on their own progress. Wise parents find the strengths of their child and encourage them, instead of demanding that they become a version of someone else. The child only needs to progress compared to their own self yesterday, focusing on that will make everything better.

Not respecting your child’s privacy

Many parents think that because their child is still young, they do not need privacy. But now children are different, they have different thoughts from us from a few years old. Children need to have their privacy respected. You should be your child’s friend, not someone who controls them. When a child’s privacy is violated, they will be less open to their parents to keep their own safe space. Therefore, it will be harder for you to approach your child. Furthermore, when you regularly violate your child’s privacy, they will resist and find ways to prove or avoid their parents. You should also remind other family members when they violate your child’s privacy.

Not acknowledging your child’s efforts

Children grow from encouragement and praise. That does not mean you should create fake victories for your child, but you should recognize when they do something, even if it is small. Sometimes you think you need to be modest and say: “No, it’s very naughty,” “No, the child is just learning normally.” You don’t have to be like that, be thankful when others praise your child instead of not recognizing it. Rejecting compliments makes the child think that they have not done what you want and that they are not being respected, they become self-conscious.

Parenting is a difficult experience, but the harder you overcome, the more successful your child will be. Let’s try together to have a strong and successful future generation.