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The rebellious children are difficult to teach because their parents possess this one thing. Who could leave it behind?

Raising children is not an easy task. Parents need to be careful not to make the following mistakes when teaching young children, as they may become disobedient when they grow up.

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8 March, 2024

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Parents Spoil Children Too Much

This is very common in Vietnamese families. Nowadays, as the economic conditions are gradually improving, families have fewer children, so they are always pampered like princesses and princes, with clothes delivered to their hands and food served to their mouths.

Therefore, in today’s society, it is not uncommon for parents to spoil their children, as long as the children are happy, parents can do anything. However, the more children are spoiled when they are young, the more selfish they become when they grow up.

Children who are pampered by their parents for a long time without discipline are prone to develop a sense of superiority.

They often lack respect, gratitude towards others, and they consider their family’s care for them as something natural. Children like that not only lack filial piety, but they can also become “giant children” when they grow up, who like to rely on others and even resort to violence against their own parents.

Parents Themselves Do Not Respect Their Own Parents

In fact, parents are the first teachers of children and most of the child’s behaviors are learned from their parents. According to research, most of the good qualities and behaviors of human beings are formed during childhood.

Therefore, if you are not respectful to your parents and have a bad attitude towards the elderly, your children may consider this as normal. When children grow up in such a family, they may develop a lack of respect for others.

Regarding the bad habits of parents, writer Trinh Uyen Khiem said: “If you want your children to be respectful to you, the best way is to be respectful to your parents.”

If you want your children to be kind and respectful to you when you are old, set an example, respect and take care of the elderly, and cultivate “filial piety” in your children.

Frequent physical punishment and scolding of children

When being hit by their parents, children will feel resentment and hatred, which can lead to them becoming violent and actively engaging in violence towards others in the future. Especially during the ages of 5-6, which is an important stage for personal psychological development. Violent actions and words from parents can easily influence a child.

Yelling at children is not a good way and can greatly affect their mental well-being.

Material indulgence more than love

Nowadays, many parents work tirelessly, from work to household chores, to provide their children with a comfortable material life, not allowing them to touch household chores. The children only have to study and play. By doing so, you are depriving the child of the opportunity to repay their gratitude and making the child become more indifferent. Your actions unintentionally make the child feel that the love and material things provided by parents are taken for granted and the sacrifices of the parents are reasonable.

In fact, what a child needs the most is love. It has a strong impact on the soul, nurturing the love within the child, helping the love for their own parents to grow over time.

Frequently asked questions

Children who are constantly pampered without discipline may develop a sense of superiority and a lack of respect for others. They may become ungrateful, considering their family’s care as something owed to them. These children can also turn into “giant children” as adults, relying too much on others and even resorting to violence when they don’t get their way.

Parents are a child’s first teachers, and most behaviors are learned from them. If parents do not show respect to their own parents or elders, children may perceive this as normal and grow up lacking respect for authority figures and older people. It is important for parents to set a positive example by treating elders with kindness and cultivating filial piety in their children.

Physical punishment and constant scolding can lead to resentment and hatred in children. They may become desensitized to violence and more likely to engage in violent behavior themselves. This is especially true during the formative years of 5-6 years old, when a child’s psychology is highly impressionable. Yelling at children can also negatively impact their mental well-being.

No, material indulgence without love can make children indifferent and unappreciative. They may come to expect material things as a given and fail to understand the sacrifices their parents make. Love is the most important need of a child, as it nurtures their soul and helps them develop a loving relationship with their parents.