Why do ancestral sayings instruct using poverty to raise sons and wealth to raise daughters?

How to use poverty to raise a son?

Many people understand the meaning of this sentence as parents from poor backgrounds raising their sons or giving them little daily living expenses… However, the real meaning is to let the child experience “poverty” and “hardship” from which they gain values of discipline, character, and nurture their willpower. In order to do this, parents need to:

Let the child endure hardship

If you want your child to strive, nurture virtues like frugality and integrity… Parents cannot provide them with too much material luxury. However, to help the child develop well, parents should not be overly stingy with their children either.

Experience the feeling of failure

Difficulties and obstacles can stimulate courage and the ability to face reality. When a child encounters “failure,” parents should encourage them to overcome it. This is also a way to win, to maintain a positive attitude in the face of challenges.

Cultivate independence in life

In today’s society, many college students do not know how to cook, wash clothes, or even fold bed sheets and clothes. This surprises others. In order for the child to develop well, parents should teach them to do household chores from a young age, based on their strength and age.

Learn to take responsibility

Responsibility is like a “badge” carried on the shoulders of males. Therefore, parents should cultivate a sense of responsibility in children from an early age. Only then can they bear the responsibility for the family and the community’s development in the future.

Using wealth to educate a daughter, what does it mean?

Wealth raises a daughter actually means parents should focus on fostering character and knowledge in young girls, so they can gain a better understanding of life.

With broad knowledge, independence, personal opinions, and intelligence, knowing their clear goals to pursue, when they grow up, girls will be less likely to be overwhelmed and attracted by the glamorous aspects of life.

Always support and encourage the child

Compared to boys, girls live in a “relationship-oriented” world. Therefore, girls need affirmation, approval, and encouragement from others to gain more strength. Affirmation, approval, and encouragement are very important to girls, as they are sources of motivation for them to be confident, independent, determined, and pursue their goals.

In a girl’s growing process, if she receives a lot of encouragement and actions of encouragement, it will often create educational miracles.

Nurture with love

Loving means using positive, pure, warm, trusting, optimistic words to sow happiness and joy into the pure and gentle soul of a girl. These things will help girls have more trust in life, so their world is full of love and happiness.

Take responsibility in education

When a girl has an introverted personality, and sometimes feels insecure, parents can create opportunities for her to communicate more with the outside world. Provide more encouragement and praise every day, so that the girl can be more confident in herself.

If the girl shows no special interests or talents, parents can take her to music instrument stores or dance schools, guiding her to develop new interests.

When a girl faces important choices and finds them difficult to handle, parents can analyze the advantages and disadvantages of the issue clearly for her, helping her understand the issue and make her own choices.

Responsibility is not just about taking better care of a girl’s daily diet and activities, but it is about parents’ responsibility to nurture her educational abilities, responsibility for her physical and mental health, responsibility for her life plans, and responsibility for her future…

Whether parents fulfill their responsibilities or not will determine whether a girl grows up to be someone dependent on others or an independent person strong enough to handle everything.