“The True Power of Parenting: Unleashing Your Child’s Potential by Letting Go at the Right Time”

When children lack passion, parents should not complain but instead create a positive energy source for them.

To raise talented and aspiring children, parents should let go and stop doing these five things.

Let go of being “hardworking”

After children turn three and go through the crucial stage of developing a sense of security, parents should learn to let go and guide their children to do some basic chores or take care of themselves.

Psychologists from Harvard University have been tracking a group of teenagers for decades and found that:

Children who regularly participate in household chores at a young age tend to have better relationships and a more optimistic outlook in the future. They are also four times more likely to have well-paid job opportunities as adults and are fifteen times less likely to experience unemployment.

This also confirms that children raised by “lazy” parents may turn out better.

Guide your children to do age-appropriate chores.

Parents should learn to “throw away” their hardworking nature: Do less, stimulate children’s initiative, and make them feel needed to foster a sense of responsibility.

Letting go doesn’t mean parents stop caring or intervening. Instead, it’s about allowing children to gradually become independent and self-reliant. For example, instead of always tidying up your child’s bedroom, ask them to clean and organize it their way. Or, when your child faces a problem, guide them to find a solution instead of rushing to intervene.

Through this, children will develop essential life skills, independent thinking, and a sense of responsibility—key factors for their future success. At the same time, parents can also free up more time for themselves and other relationships.

Let go of “desires”

Brain scientist Daniel Siegel proposed a concept called “open brain”:

This means that children know who they are and who they will become while realizing they can overcome disappointments and make choices for a meaningful life.

Parents and children lead different lives. So, learn to “detach” from your child.

Provide your children with an ideal environment to become themselves and be the true helmsman of their lives.

Parents need to give control to their children, avoid giving too many instructions, and hinder their freedom. You can allow them to make choices about their daily activities, from choosing their outfits to arranging their bedrooms. This helps develop decision-making skills, builds confidence, and fosters a sense of responsibility for their actions.

Additionally, parents should express trust in their children’s abilities, encourage them to explore and solve problems independently. Instead of intervening too early when they face difficulties, be patient in guiding and assisting them, giving them opportunities to practice and grow.

Provide an ideal environment for your children to become their true selves.

Let go of “worries”

Many parents worry that their children are not doing well or are inferior to their peers, eventually turning their worry into anger, causing their children to live in fear.

Parental worry and irritability over time will suppress their children’s personalities and negatively affect their character.

Therefore, experts remind parents to advance slowly with their children. Being too eager for quick success can be harmful.

Slow down when things happen and incorporate love into your child’s development.

Feeling the flow of love, children will naturally feel reassured and bravely move forward.

Instead of focusing on whether your children are doing well, accept and view them as unique individuals. Every child has strengths and weaknesses, and development occurs at different paces.

Direct your attention and encouragement toward your children’s strengths rather than constantly emphasizing comparisons and inappropriate expectations.

More importantly, create a safe and loving environment where children are free to experiment, make mistakes, and learn without fear. This way, they will confidently rise to challenges and be ready to face future difficulties.

Let go of “negative judgments”

Some netizens have compiled a list of “the most negative things parents have said”:

“Look at your cousin; he always scores a few points higher than you. When will you make us proud?”

“If I didn’t push you to study every day, how could you have achieved such results?”

“Why are you so stupid?”

Such criticism and denial, when internalized during the growing-up years, can cause children to spiral into a cycle of low self-esteem.

Criticized children will always lack positive guidance and absorb more and more negative energy.

Take the time to listen and understand your children.

In reality, young children also need to save face.

Such words not only fail to build their self-confidence but also have long-lasting negative effects. Children will feel disrespected, lacking recognition and love. This can lead to psychological and behavioral issues.

Instead, take the time to listen and understand. Focus on the positives, encourage and motivate your children. Let them feel your trust and support. This will help build self-confidence and foster a healthy family relationship.