There are many reasons why children are shy. Let’s explore the main reasons below:
1. Influenced by parents
Parents are the first role models for children to imitate. If parents have signs of insecurity, introverted behavior, poor communication skills… then naturally children will develop a shy personality and poor communication skills.
2. Family relationships
When children do not receive enough attention from the family, they will lack a foundation, a safe place to share negative emotions and a person to share fears and answer their questions.
Children who lack family care are like houses without foundations, easily becoming timid, cautious about everything around them.
3. Overindulgent and overprotective parents
In life and in education, parents are always taking care of the child from A to Z… Due to receiving too much protection in the family, the child does not have the opportunity to be independent. This makes the child dependent, relying on others, lacking life experience. The child becomes shy, afraid of everything, and lacks confidence without adult guidance.
4. Limited living environment, children do not have the opportunity to interact regularly with the community
There is a fact that many parents have abused information technology in the process of educating their children. This limits the interaction of children with the outside world.
When only being nurtured and exposed to people in the family, having little interaction with friends around, children will not learn how to make friends, cope with situations, and always feel fearful whenever they are taken out of their familiar environment, which is their home.
5. Children are often teased, bullied, or criticized
Sometimes adults teasing small children is simply a joke, but it actually has a great impact on the physical and psychological development of children. Being teased and constantly teased will make the child feel inferior, lack confidence, and become shy.
Children who are often scapegoated, criticized, and even ridiculed will feel like they always fail, insecure, and lose enthusiasm in learning and in life.
In contrast, children who are valued by others will naturally feel happy, want to assert themselves more, and feel proud and confident. Therefore, when a child is full of confidence and wants to show himself in front of his parents, please give your child the best compliments and encouragement.
For example, if a child wants to pour water for their mother but is not skilled enough to pour water into a cup without spilling it. If the parent is positive, they will praise the child like “My child has grown up, you know how to pour water for your mother. Next time, if you hold the underside of the bottle, it will pour better without spilling. Good job, my child”. But many parents may immediately stop them by saying things like “Okay, let it be! You spilled it again!…” Negative words like that, on the one hand, make a child not know how to do it right. On the other hand, it makes the child learn how to avoid criticism by not doing anything, not participating in anything.
6. Children are “expected” too much beyond their abilities
Nowadays, parents have placed too many expectations on their children, unintentionally creating a lot of pressure for both children and themselves. This leads to an irritable attitude, scolding, and even hitting the child when the child does not meet the parent’s expectations. Faced with the parents’ negative attitude, the child always lives in worry and fear of making mistakes, so they lack initiative and enthusiasm in every activity.
Many parents hesitate to show their love to their child in the presence of strangers, always deliberately criticizing their child so that the child feels the need to try harder. However, this approach is not entirely correct. The child may feel insecure because they are not as good as others and their parents seem to not be satisfied with them.
7. Children live in a strict family, regularly using severe punishments
Using a cane or severe punishment with the desire for a well-behaved child and obedience is an outdated and still easily encountered method in many families. Using a cane is a way of showing a lack of respect for children – a lack of respect for children’s opinions, a lack of respect for children’s bodies, and affects the child’s self-esteem.
When a child lives in a family where respect is lacking, they cannot protect themselves from physical and mental abuse when they go out into society. The cane will also make the child always worried, become timid, be wary of everything around them. A child living in fear cannot be confident.
8. Children frequently witness conflicts between parents
Parents arguing, fighting in front of their children is extremely terrible. It will be a permanent scar in the child’s mind. This not only makes the child tend to use violence when they have conflicts but also can make the child always feel worried, sad because they witness their loved ones hurting each other.
The family is always the foundation for the development of young children. When the family is not harmonious and conflicts often occur, the child also lacks the confidence and joy to integrate into society.
9. Genetic factors
In addition to the factors mentioned above, genetic factors also contribute to the development of a child’s shyness. The child’s genetic structure has factors that cause shyness inherited from their father or mother.
Overall, there are many causes of shyness and timidity in children. Therefore, parents need to understand these reasons in order to overcome them and find ways to help their children in a timely manner.
Parents can also create opportunities for children to socialize, develop situations, and enhance their communication skills, which will help children become more confident and proactive….
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