Many parents only focus on their children’s academic achievements without realizing the importance of their emotional well-being. According to education experts, children with the following three emotional traits may not engage in illegal or drastic behaviors, but these traits make it difficult for them to integrate into society and create negative feelings within the community.
Children with fragile hearts, easily hurt
Life becomes more challenging, and resilience becomes more critical. However, fragile children are more likely to be discouraged after minor setbacks, making it difficult for them to move forward. Furthermore, children with fragile souls face difficulties in interacting with others. In a life that involves many collisions, sometimes unintentional, these fragile children may take the blame and harm themselves. This not only causes personal suffering but also makes others uncomfortable around them. Strong individuals with good internal strength do not blame others easily, are less susceptible to being hurt, and are more forgiving, which makes others feel comfortable being around them. This is also a crucial point that makes society more pleasant.
Individuals with fragile souls pay too much attention to how others perceive them. Even if they do not blame themselves, they still burden themselves with self-doubt. Therefore, they find it challenging to live peacefully and happily, and their constant vigilance often exhausts those around them.
Parenting approach: To prevent their children from becoming sensitive and fragile individuals, parents should avoid excessive praise or scolding. For example, when a child makes a mistake, parents should not shout at them or have high expectations. Instead, teach children to be tolerant and not hold grudges against others. Additionally, instill confidence in children to strengthen their internal resilience.
Children with low emotional intelligence
In modern times, EQ is valued more than IQ. Many children may not excel academically but have excellent emotional intelligence and communication skills, thus increasing their chances of success. Emotional intelligence serves as a bridge that connects us with others. Children with low emotional intelligence tend to lag behind in creativity, often conforming to societal norms, and may be disliked for their awkward behaviors in social interactions.
Emotional intelligence is a key to survival and guides individuals in society. Successful individuals often have high EQ.
Parenting approach: Instead of forcing children to focus solely on academic subjects, parents should provide opportunities for them to participate in social activities and have broader exposure to develop better emotional intelligence. Parents should be understanding and empathetic towards their children, allowing them to develop their emotions freely from a young age. Engaging in observation and active listening activities with children can help foster a deeper understanding of others. There are various centers that support the development of emotional intelligence in children, and parents can explore these options to provide better support for their children.
Children who like to defend themselves
Defensiveness is not a noble characteristic of a person. Those who frequently defend themselves do not receive trust and respect from others. As a result, society tends to be skeptical of these defensive individuals. Those who constantly defend themselves are avoiding responsibility, and as a result, they do not inspire trust or closeness from others.
Parents often encourage their children to defend themselves, thinking that it demonstrates intelligence. While it may be clever, defensiveness is not an honorable quality. Therefore, parents should be cautious about this behavior.
Parenting approach: The tendency to defend oneself should be corrected early on, starting from the way parents educate their children. Instead of blaming the floor for a child’s fall, parents can tell them to be more careful next time to prevent accidents. Rather than hitting the table and blaming the table for causing pain, parents can advise the child to be more cautious while walking. When parents notice these defensive behaviors, they should not encourage or support them but instead explain why it is important to change.
Accepting one’s mistakes and not blaming others are qualities of a talented and good person, and these qualities are essential for success. Recognizing mistakes is the first step to correcting them.
All parents love their children and can treat them gently, understanding their needs and adjusting their behavior accordingly. When parents notice their children’s fragility, they should avoid causing harm, be patient, and understand their children’s limitations. If children are not emotionally sensitive, parents should try to be forgiving, considering that their children may be embarrassed. However, society may not be as forgiving.
Therefore, when parents notice these characteristics in their children, they need to change their parenting approach to help their children become stronger and more resilient.