The words parents speak to their children are not just spoken and then forgotten. Each spoken word and gesture can leave a lasting impression on a child’s mind, whether it be happiness or unhappiness. Therefore, the communication between parents and their children is extremely important. So do not think that being a good parent always has to involve big things, just regularly saying these 4 sentences to your child every evening can create remarkable progress and leave a mark on their lives, dear parents:
Did anything fun happen today, my child?
After picking your child up from school and before they go to bed, don’t just ask them “What did you learn at school today? Did you finish your homework?”. All parents hope that their child learns a lot at school, but children also face their own stresses. So ask if anything fun happened, your child will be more enthusiastic to share and won’t feel pressured. Asking too many responsibilities can make a child afraid and resentful. Sometimes children think “My parents only care about my schoolwork and not me at all”. That’s why caring about your child’s feelings is better, and from there you will also achieve the goal of finding answers to other questions. So sometimes it’s just about how you ask the question. So don’t focus on asking what your child learned or what they accomplished, ask if they had anything fun, they will gently tell you everything. Plus, at that point, you put your child in a sharing position, not in an interrogated position, so they will feel more comfortable, in a better mood, and will learn this positive attitude throughout their life. Be someone who listens to your child rather than someone who monitors them, parents.
You were amazing today, my child
Both children and adults like to be recognized. When they achieve a high score or do something good, they will want to share it with their parents. Therefore, give your child the deserving compliments. Don’t let your child be disappointed when they are excited to brag about a lesson that their teacher praised, and you respond with something ordinary like “That’s just normal, back in my day, your parents did this and that”. That will block the child’s emotions and the next time, they won’t want to talk to you anymore.
And that also causes the child to lose enthusiasm and develop a fear of communication with others, making them withdrawn and fearful. Renowned British educator Spencer once said, “Encouragement for a child is worth a hundred scoldings. Applause and encouragement can help children with low self-esteem get out of the mud.” So encourage and acknowledge your child in every specific action, not just praise for the sake of it, praise so that your child is impressed and tries harder, praise in every specific action. So when your child has achievements, acknowledge them.
Mom and Dad love you very much
Expressing love for your children helps them gain more confidence, but parents often hesitate to do so.
From then on, children also do not learn how to express love to their parents. Saying “I love you, Mom” or “I love you, Dad” may seem simple, but many find it difficult, especially as the child grows older. In addition, hugs and kisses on the forehead are wonderful but often overlooked. Those actions bring great value and energy to life. You should cultivate this in yourself rather than follow your parents’ generation who never knew how to say “I love you”. So tell your child words of affection, words of love, and give each other warm hugs to convey positive emotions. This method helps children develop a good EQ and is very beneficial for their future.
Say “Goodnight” to your child
Instead of saying “Go to sleep, my child” and wondering why your child is still awake, say “Have a good night’s sleep, sleep well”. Many parents feel that what their child says before going to bed is not important. Regardless of whether a child’s day was happy or sad, the words “goodnight” from parents can provide a sense of security for the child. This statement helps the child forget about the troubles of the day and sink into a better sleep. For young children, this statement is like a magic spell that goes into sleep and recognizes it as bedtime. So don’t be stingy with words for your child. Your loving words help your child be more confident and happy, from which their mind and body will develop better. A happy child devotes their entire childhood to building a future, a wounded child in the past will carry their childhood to heal their future. So create these affections for your child, small but gradually absorbed and profound. You may not always be able to do it, but be as positive as possible.