As parents, there are often times when we complain and vent. However, it is important to consider whether complaining is beneficial. Do you want your child to know about your suffering so that they can appreciate your efforts and work hard to repay you? Otherwise, repayment becomes a debt that the children pay off and discard. Therefore, as parents, remember:
Don’t talk to your child about unhappiness
Your complaints and vents as parents will put pressure on your children and make them feel that life has nothing good to offer. If you are a parent, try to complain less to your children about things that don’t go as planned, such as difficulties at work, lack of assistance, lack of support from family members, or unsatisfactory children…
Talking to your children about your personal unhappiness and misfortunes will make them feel burdened, hinder their ability to enjoy happiness, and create negative energy within the family, making it difficult for children to break free. Growing up in such an environment, children will lose their positive energy.
Psychologist Ly Tuyet said that complaining about your own unhappiness to your children is one of the most effective ways to destroy them. Because children are natural energy receptors. This kind of complaining transfers one’s own life burdens to children, saturating them with negative energy. The complaints and vents of parents will ultimately create bitterness for their children’s entire lives.
You may encounter many difficulties in life, but don’t complain to your child. Illustrative photo
Don’t complain a lot about the poverty of the family
Emphasizing poverty will make children feel insecure, making it difficult for them to expand their vision, learn, and communicate. Hence, there is a saying that parents who complain and emphasize poverty will lead to their children never being able to lift their heads up in life.
Many parents talk about poverty so that their children do not demand too much. But it can be a gloomy thing that surrounds children during their childhood. Children will be attached to the fear of poverty. When parents complain and emphasize poverty to their children, it may just be common complaints, but what the child feels is a form of emotional oppression, causing the child to have habits of suppressing themselves, minimizing their needs, or even not daring to have any.
So instead of complaining about poverty, parents should guide their children towards responsible consumption.
Don’t complain and speak ill of the other parent
Parents sometimes compete for recognition, especially when they are dissatisfied with the other parent, they speak ill to make the child love them more. This mentality will hurt the children. Speaking ill of each other in front of their children, firstly, will tense up the child’s relationship with the other parent, and secondly, will make the child lack judgment and lack confidence in themselves… Whether the mother speaks ill of the father or the father speaks ill of the mother, in the subconscious mind of the child, they will think that they are not good. When the couple disagrees or divorces, if they can no longer respect each other, it is best not to talk about each other in front of the child. Complaining and criticizing will satisfy your emotions at the time, but it is not good for the children. If you truly care for your child, it is best to say less about the other parent.
Young children need a healthy environment to grow up and be happy. That happiness is the door for children to become active, happy, positive, confident, and more successful. However, growing up in darkness, they will only suppress the good things and the good seeds will not sprout. Therefore, parents need to remember not to satisfy their own mouths and cause harm to their children.
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