The difference between having one child and having two, the sooner the better

Impact on Parents

A family with two children takes more effort, time, and money

There is a saying about parent-child love that giving birth is just the first task of parents, raising and educating children is the lifelong task.

If a couple only has one child, then parents only need to deal with the father-child relationship in the initial stage, while the later stage requires educating the child and guiding them to integrate into society better. But if there is a second child, it’s different. From start to finish, parents not only have to deal with the parent-child relationship but also constantly resolve conflicts, competition, and conflicts between the children.

Therefore, parents of the second child may encounter more difficulties in taking care of their children and family, and at the same time, they will spend more money, time, and energy!

Families with two or more children may experience more fatigue and difficulties in harmony

Influenced by traditional beliefs, many older people always think that having many children brings blessings, so in the past, when family planning was not implemented, basically, each family would have 5 or 6 or more children. And many people believe that having many children means that when they are old, their children will support them economically.

But the truth is quite surprising, in large families, the responsibility of taking care of the elderly and caring for parents is mostly borne by the eldest child. If the other children do not help their parents and even avoid the responsibility of taking care of the elderly, it will imbalance the mentality of the people in the extended family, and even affect the harmony of the family, and siblings will turn their backs on each other.

Impact on Children

For families with two children, good sibling relationships are beneficial to the development of children

In fact, having more children in a family has a positive effect on the healthy development of both older and younger children’s cognitive and psychosocial skills.

In the process of growing up and maturing, we communicate, teach and help each other. They will also learn social skills more, know how to resolve conflicts and disagreements, and know how to empathize and regulate their own emotions.

Finally, we want to say that whether having one child or having a second child, there is no absolute difference between good and bad. Although having a second child clearly increases pressure on parents in all aspects, it does not mean that parents cannot have a good life in old age. As long as the children grow up healthy and know how to be filial to their parents, it is extremely wonderful. So in the end, how obedient the children are depends on how well parents nurture and educate them!