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5 Habits Moms Form that Hinder Their Children’s Success in the Future

Below are 5 typical types of parenting failures, which are children's terror, and the main cause leading to children's lack of confidence and difficulty in succeeding in the future.

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14 January, 2024

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1. Mother scolds, gets angry at the child

In most cases, parents scold their children because they have made mistakes. At this point, the purpose of parents is to make the child realize the mistake and stop repeating it.

But when the frequency of scolding and criticism increases, the frequency of the child’s mistakes also increases. Because when parents scold their children with negative and even mean words, the child’s mind will not correct the mistakes, but only feel sad and disappointed.

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One or two times won’t cause much harm, but when a child’s brain receives them for a long time, the child’s mental strength gradually weakens. There are times when parents scold their children to vent their worries, indeed they are very worried about their children, but what they say is not advice but “a stab” that hurts the child even more.

For children, parents are the closest relatives. Every child, no matter how old they are, wants affirmation from their parents. The scolding and heavy criticism of parents always have a negative impact on the child.

According to Professor Stapen of the Association of Education of the United Kingdom, scolding children, especially repetitive criticism, will cause more serious harm than physical punishment. Children who grow up in the bullying of their families will not trust others and do not value themselves. If this continues, children will have psychological problems, and more seriously, it can lead to autism.

2. Mother lacks patience to listen to the child

Mothers should know that young children are independent beings. Although they are children, they still have the right to express their thoughts and desires.

There are many parents who believe that young children are still inexperienced and prone to mistakes… so they deprive their children of the right to express themselves, and do not have the patience to sit down and listen to what their children say. For example, when the child does not want to learn to dance, but you feel that your daughter looks beautiful when she learns to dance, you force her to learn.

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You always find excuses to ignore your child’s desires, and ignore their confessions. In this way, in the long run, the distance between you and your child will be further and further away, and finally the child will not want to express their thoughts to you.

3. Mother overprotects and controls the child all the time, everywhere

Because they love and cherish their children so much, they are afraid that their children will be even slightly hurt. So they protect their children more carefully. There are many mothers who are always worried that their children will encounter danger outside, so they wrap their children up everywhere.

But the world today is complicated and there are many dangers, these children when they grow up and step into the world, will face difficulties in living independently because they have always had their mother’s protection. Overprotecting children seems to be smooth and comfortable, but the result is that they become weak and introverted, timid and talentless.

There are many mothers who want to control their children in all aspects. This type of mother always sees obedience and compliance as the criteria for evaluating the qualities of the child. In the eyes of many mothers, when a child does not follow their own orientation and plans but expresses personal thoughts and makes personal decisions, it is considered “rebellion, rebellion”. Even when children grow up, mothers still control everything, making them become people without independent thinking.

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Not a few mothers have selfish behavior, they impose on their children their unfulfilled desires. Many parents whose careers have not been successful have poured their enthusiasm and expectations into their children. Because they want their children to develop according to their own thoughts, the emotions of the children are overlooked.

4. Mother is too lenient

The motto of an easygoing mother is “Don’t worry, be happy”. She does not set limits, rules, regulations… for her children. Mothers like this want their children to do whatever they like, without restricting them, to let the child develop freely according to their instincts, live happily and healthily.

But life is complex and there are many rules not only for families but also for society. So a child who is not put into a framework from an early age until he goes out into society will encounter difficulties and cause a lot of trouble…

5. Mother does everything for the child

Stays up late and wakes up early to take care of the child. Gets up early to go to the market, cook, take the child to school, help the child with homework after school and wash clothes until midnight.

Being industrious and simple, this is a common characteristic of East Asian mothers and also the qualities of a good wife and mother.

However, doing everything for the child only makes them more bored and insecure. It makes them have negative feelings about money. These disadvantages will outweigh the benefits when the child grows up.