90% of well-behaved children with respectful parents come from these 4 types of families

A Father’s Love and the Learning of Children

There is a young man on the internet named Vương Tử who is known for his interesting short videos. In one of the videos, Vương Tử shares observations about his father’s actions:

“Once, after my father finished eating, he not only threw the leftovers into the trash, but also helped my mother clean up. I carefully observed and then imitated my father’s actions to help my mother clean up the remaining dishes.”

Vương Tử continues to talk about how his father always supports his mother during the winter by turning on the hot water before she washes her hands to avoid cold skin. Inspired by his father’s actions, Vương Tử stops his mother from turning on the cold water, waiting until there is warm water so that his mother can wash her hands.

We can see the love and tolerance of a father for his mother, as well as how Vương Tử learns and imitates his father to help his mother with household chores.

These small actions not only demonstrate love within the family, but also teach children about responsibility and care for one another. For young children, how their parents handle family relationships can predict how they will treat their own families when they grow up.

A netizen on Zhihu also shared their childhood experience and how their father showed care:

“Once, my father came home late but still voluntarily washed the dishes after dinner. My mother said, ‘You’re tired all day, let me do it.’ But my father shook his head and said, ‘It’s just a small task, let me help you.’”

The initiative and care of a father made a strong impression on the son, making him think: “If I regularly help my parents, they will have more opportunities to relax.” Therefore, he started paying attention to housework and learning how to help his parents with small tasks, sharing the burden with them.

In both cases, the father is not only a symbol of strength, but also a role model for teaching children about love and responsibility within the family.

When a Mother is Emotionally Stable, Children Feel Closer

A user on Zhihu asked, “What would happen if a mother is emotionally unstable?”

Another user answered, “It would be a mix of love and hate.”

This person shared about their single mother, describing how she would frequently scold and hit them when they were young. Even over minor issues, such as being picky about food, their mother could slap them or kick them out of the house and refuse to let them eat. They had to stay away from their mother since high school, choosing to live in a dormitory and rarely returning home.

Although the mother genuinely loves her son, whenever she sees him, she is reminded of her cruel ex-husband, causing her to lose control and become unable to restrain herself. This further distances the son.

If a mother is emotionally unstable, constantly displaying anger towards her child without reason, the child will not feel the maternal love. The child cannot understand or empathize with the mother’s difficult situation, only knowing that “Mother is losing control, I need to escape from her,” which leads to further distance.

A mother represents tenderness in a child’s heart, making it easier for them to overlook defenses and get closer. When I was a student, my mother would often be grumpy all day or suddenly become irritated, blaming me saying, “You did it wrong, you didn’t do it well.” That’s why since I was young, I wanted to stay at the boarding school and didn’t want to go home to avoid my mother’s reproach.

Later, as I grew up, my mother was no longer grumpy and irritable as before. Instead, she would ask for my opinion, adjust her tone when I made mistakes, and gently guide me on how to handle things. Feeling the warmth from my mother, I became more fond of going home and frequently sharing with her, making our relationship closer and warmer.

When Parents Listen, Children Respond with Love

A member on Zhihu asked, “What would happen if a mother is emotionally unstable?”

Another user answered, “It would be a mix of love and hate.”

This person shared about their single mother, describing how she would frequently scold and hit them when they were young. Even over minor issues, such as being picky about food, their mother could slap them or kick them out of the house and refuse to let them eat. They had to stay away from their mother since high school, choosing to live in a dormitory and rarely returning home.

Although the mother genuinely loves her son, whenever she sees him, she is reminded of her cruel ex-husband, causing her to lose control and become unable to restrain herself. This further distances the son.

If a mother is emotionally unstable, constantly displaying anger towards her child without reason, the child will not feel the maternal love. The child cannot understand or empathize with the mother’s difficult situation, only knowing that “Mother is losing control, I need to escape from her,” which leads to further distance.

A mother represents tenderness in a child’s heart, making it easier for them to overlook defenses and get closer. When I was a student, my mother would often be grumpy all day or suddenly become irritated, blaming me saying, “You did it wrong, you didn’t do it well.” That’s why since I was young, I wanted to stay at the boarding school and didn’t want to go home to avoid my mother’s reproach.

Later, as I grew up, my mother was no longer grumpy and irritable as before. Instead, she would ask for my opinion, adjust her tone when I made mistakes, and gently guide me on how to handle things. Feeling the warmth from my mother, I became more fond of going home and frequently sharing with her, making our relationship closer and warmer.

Respectful Parents and Appreciative Children

Psychologist Hồ Thần Chi shared their experience:

When Hồ Thần Chi was young, they were very mischievous. When they made a mistake, their father would make them kneel facing the wall, thinking for three hours without being allowed to eat or drink, and no one could persuade him.

When Hồ Thần Chi had opinions, they would be directly denied and criticized by their father, and if they didn’t comply with their father’s demands, they would be punished.

As a result, Hồ Thần Chi resented their father for not respecting them at all and would frequently complain, “How can I have a father like this?”

As a form of education, parents who do not respect the desires of their child are actually applying an “authoritarian” method of education.

Children educated in this way will not appreciate the hard work and sacrifice of their parents. Instead, they will develop a revengeful mentality and easily distance themselves from their loved ones when they grow up.

For children, being respected and accepted by their parents’ ideas can make them feel tolerant, understood, and grateful.

Psychologist Rogers believes that “love is deep understanding and acceptance.”

When parents respect their children, they are protecting the fragile hearts of their children. When parents accept their children, they are embracing imperfect children.

Children have strong perceptiveness, and if they are respected and accepted by their parents, they will feel their parents’ love from the bottom of their hearts, and love will continue from there.

For many appreciative children, parents will agree with their point of view and be tolerant of everything about them.

Only by giving children full respect and accepting all their differences can we grasp their future gratitude.