Why do children lie?
Children sometimes do not remember what they just did. When parents ask, children may assert that they do not know, did not do it. Children do not lie on purpose, it’s because they do not remember.
In some cases, children lie because they are afraid of being scolded by their parents. The reprimands and punishments from parents make children live in fear. Children are afraid that if their parents know the truth, they will yell at them, or even hit them.
Another reason for children to lie is to make their parents happy. If something happens that upsets their parents, children will avoid it.
Or because of the desire to win, children lie, making up a story to prove that they are not losing.
Another underlying reason is that children learn from their parents. When children discover that their parents lie, they will quickly catch up. If they lie successfully a few times, children tend to continue, which is very dangerous. Parents need to correct their child immediately.
What parents should do when their child lies
Gently encourage your child to tell the truth
Parents should encourage and praise their child’s honesty. Be gentle so that the child feels trusted and always truthful in their words. Gentle advice and encouragement will be more helpful than hitting and yelling.
Do not accuse your child
Many parents scold their child when they see the child playing and messing up the toys on the floor, making the child feel scared. Instead of yelling, parents should be friends with their child, become someone the child trusts instead of intimidating them.
With simple sentences like: “Why are the toys on the floor? I wish someone could put them away in the right place,” the child may happily go and tidy up their toys.
Do not put too much pressure on your child
It is best for parents not to have too many expectations for their child and impose rules that the child must follow. These things put a lot of pressure on the child and make them try to comply just to please their parents. When the child cannot achieve what the parents desire, many parents tend to blame and punish them. Gradually, the child develops a mentality of not being allowed to make mistakes, and they must obedient in order to be loved.
That also leads the child to lie when they make mistakes. So don’t create too much pressure. Instead, parents should encourage and support the child to understand that no matter what happens, parents are always there for them.
Build trust
Children need to know that their parents always believe in them, and from there, the child will also trust their parents. Trust helps the child no longer be afraid of hiding the truth. To make the child trust in themselves, parents should communicate with their child as friends, respect them, and explain to them what is right and wrong. This helps the child see that parents are impartial referees and willing to share everything in life.
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